Armani Archives: An In-Depth Look Into The World of Social Dynamics

By Armani Talks

Our world is more interconnected than ever.

In this era, communication skills allow you to see opportunities that many are blind too. Charisma is a competitive advantage.

A foundation of communic

• Language: English
• Publisher: Armani Talks
• Release date: Apr 17, 2024
• ISBN: 9798869032027

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What to Expect

For far too long, we have been deprived of information that is crucial to the real world.

In school, we were taught about biology, history, social studies etc.

But were we ever taught about human behavior? How to make friends? How to talk to a stranger?

No.

And this is unfortunate.

Many people are able to easily create conversations with others. They have been the popular kid their entire lives.

But for many others?

The exact opposite.

I call them the silent majority. The group of people who are very interested in the world of social interactions, but lack knowledge regarding the topic.

Which is why I have developed the Armani Archives.

The information that you will find in this document will contain pages & pages of information regarding psychology, social intelligence, human behavior & much more.

A lot of this information can rarely be found on Google.

Why?

Because it is from my life experiences + my engineering background.

The funny thing about humans are that they are predictably unpredictable.

Although I have never met you, you will notice a lot of this information directly relates to your life.

Why?

Because human behavior can be studied, analyzed & processed into systems.

My engineering background has allowed me to find many of the black and white areas of the gray area of social dynamics.

The following pages will contain emails, threads, insights, tips and much more into the world of social dynamics.

Black Mirror is a television show where each episode is different. This allows the viewer to pick & choose the episode that best interest them.

Armani Archives follows the same concept. Each article is about a new topic. You can read it from beginning to the end. Or you can go to the sections that interest you.

Whatever you do, make sure you digest the information.

Social skills = Street smarts.

And the people who get ahead in this world are the ones who know how to use their words, shake the right palms & be socially dynamic.

Be like water champ.

The world is yours.

Signs of Social Intelligence

Trustworthy

Able to create small talk

Able to create nuanced conversation

Remembers names

Can have a big circle, but chooses for a small one

Observant of the small details

Gives thoughtful compliments

Laser like listening skills

High level empathy

There are 2 kinds of smart people in this world:

-Book smarts

-Street smarts

Social intelligence falls under the 'street smarts' category. You become upper echelon when you're book AND street smarts.

'Idk bro. Social intelligence seems like a scam.'

Nah, it's the real deal. And it is your DUTY to teach yourself this crucial life subject.

'Why should I?

I already have enough on my plate. Nintendo, Netflix & Twinkies.'

Fool! There are 3 MASSIVE reasons you need to level up your social skills. 3 reasons that could potentially change your life forever...

REASON 1: You will stand out.

Look around you. How many people are socially intelligent nowadays?

'Uh...'

Exactly. Due to social media & abundance of comfort, most people from our generation have become lazy!

They have opted to only talk behind screens, rarely in public. Because it's the easy thing to do! People with social skills are as rare as a Charizard Pokemon card. No lie.

Lesson? Be the Charizard and you'll radiate like fire in any room.

REASON 2: Spot snakes

Snakes are highly socially intelligent. They can do everything that I mentioned in the initial tweet with EASE.

If you're a social dummy, you'll have no clue when a potential snake is in your presence. Why? Because you lack SOCIAL AWARENESS.

The beauty of building social skills is that your social awareness skyrockets. When you have awareness on your side, your mind is present.

A present mind allows you to listen to your gut. Your gut always lets you know when something seems off. Now you'll FINALLY listen!

REASON 3: Social Assets

You ever heard: It's not what you know, it's who you know.

'Of course!'

It's 100% true.

Knowing the right people saves you a lot of time in the real world.

While the book smarts kid is reading and reading away, the street smarts kid would have made 2 phone calls & got the job handled.

'Well, that doesn't seem fair.'

Life ain't fair homie! Deal with it.

Just like anything in life, if it's worth it, then it will require hustle. The only way to build your social intelligence is by being more social. Rocket science, right?

While your counterparts are watching TV all day, go out to Toastmasters meeting.

While your counterparts wait for an event to be set up, go set one up yourself.

While your counterparts only know how to text, pick up the phone & call.

It's easy as fuck to stand out in today's world. We are living in the Golden Era of Social Dynamics & everyone is too glued to their phones to even notice. But not you!

The only thing that separates social awkwardness from social intelligence is EFFORT. If you want to cross that bridge, you know what to do. Now get out there & become a street smarts GENIUS.

The Dangers of Seclusion

Staying in your house all day will have you losing your joy for life. You'll also feel sleepy & tired all the time.

Remember, humans are social creatures to the core. Make it a priority to have at least 1-3 social interactions a day.

Now to be honest, this lesson is often learned the hard way. But it's best to learn it one way or another. The ties into a major social dynamics fundamental.

-Humans are creatures of energy.

When I was in college, I went 1 year when I became a complete recluse.

'Why?'

Because I was taking 21 credits & it was my final year before graduating from the college of engineering. Didn't want any distractions.

So I would go to classes, then come home and study nonstop.

'Were you able to do well in classes?'

Ya. But that came with a price…

My solid grades led me to be:

-Tired

-Sad

-Lonely

And during this time, I realized something.

'What?'

That this was not healthy.

You see, humans are social creatures to the core. When you completely rob yourself of that, your mind begins to suffer.

Let me ask you a question. Do you think our ancestors had members that were chilling by themselves in a cave all the time?

'No.'

Why?

'Because they knew we needed each other for survival.'

Exactly.

With the rise in technology & comfort, being social has been seen as a hassle by our generation. Why meet real people when you can meet them on your screen?

But this is dangerous because humans are creatures of energy. When you keep yourself cooped up in the house, you disconnect your energy from the world. By doing this, your mind starts getting all wacky.

Don't you think it's a little abnormal that we have the most resources in human history, but anxiety is at an all-time high?

'Ya, that is pretty weird.'

That's because many of us let the resources control us, rather than the other way around.

Results?

Lack of sun

Lack of social skills

Humans begin to scare you

You ask why no one cares about you

You hate life etc.

You need to begin taking your energy more seriously. Don't let it take you a year as I did in college to get this wake-up call.

'Gee whiz! So how do I fix my ways?'

Thru 2 things.

1. Make it a conscious effort to have 1-3 interactions a day.

'What if I have no friends?'

Go on Google, type in local club activities & go there to make some friends. Get creative & be more proactive.

2. Spend time in nature.

This is impactful because you connect back with mother nature. You balance your energy levels. Staying in your house depletes your energy level. Major key.

Remember, people are not going to just break into your house to be social with you. The older you get, the more active you have to be with your social life.

But as time elapses, you will gain a level of joy back. Feeling joy leads to clarity. And clarity allows you to tackle life with purpose.

If you feel like something has been off in your life, audit your social life. And if that's the problem, then fix it. You'll be nervous at first to get back out there. All good. Start off light & work your way up. You'll build social comfort over time.

Now go! Find ways to exit your house & force yourself to be social until you can do it on autopilot. You will not regret your decision. Guaranteed.

Seeing the Gray Areas of Human Nature

If you're someone who spends way too much time alone, watch out. You may begin seeing humans thru a black & white lens.

But that's approaching humans with a logical mindset. They are the exact opposite.

Emotional creatures.

Aim to see the gray areas of the social world.

'Whoa, wait up there bucko! Black, white, gray, whatsup with all of these colors??'

These colors are very important.

'But what do they mean?'

I will explain. But first, I must explain the ego..

Your ego is the mind that rests between your conscious & subconscious mind.

Conscious is your critical thinking mind.

Subconscious is your emotionally feeling mind.

Are you a logical or emotional creature?

'Logical!'

Nope. You are an emotional creature.

'Really??'

Yes. You process information with your emotional mind first & then justify it with your logical mind. Which is why the subconscious mind dictates 95% of your reality.

'Okay.. but what does this have to do with the black, white & gray colors?'

This crucial concept allows you to decide whether you have tamed your ego or whether your ego controls you.

When you spend a lot of time with yourself, you are familiarizing yourself more with your subconscious mind. You are finding more logical explanations for those illogical feelings of yours. Your reality is soon becoming solidified.

When you are unleashed back into the real world, you think that other people should abide by this reality that your ego has crafted for you.

You start seeing human thru a black & white lens.

Either your ego approves of their behavior because it matches the principles of your reality.

Or your ego disapproves.

Black & white.

'And you're telling me this is dangerous??'

Yes, very.

Because in the social world, everyone has their own ego's as well. Your ego doesn’t mean shit homie.

And unless you are able to see that, you will have PLENTY of unneeded arguments, conflicts & lost friendships in your journey to the top.

Which is why you MUST see the gray areas even if you don't want to.

'How??'

Empathy.

The only way to go from a black & white -> gray thinking of humans is thru empathy. Aim to understand their thoughts, feelings & ego, even if you disagree with them. The more that you do this, the more you are able to tame your ego along the way.

'Empathy is for soft people though! I'm an alpha.'

No you fool. Empathy is for smart people that see the game 10 steps ahead. If you want to get anywhere in life, you HAVE to be able to deal with people. Empathy is your answer.

‘So empathy will help change my line of thinking towards humans??' Yes! Read this 3-step guide to get started:

Emotional Intelligence Guide:

1. Understand yourself first. Observe your thoughts & emotions without judgment.

2. Then practice on others. 'How?'

3. Learn body language, observe character shifts, listen intently & try to understand why the do what they do.

'Okay I will start right now! Time to get rid of this black & white thinking!'

Perfect.

Your journey becomes 10x easier when you learn to accept humans for the illogical gray creatures that they are.

The Truth about Trust

Socially intelligent people don't trust easily. They became socially intelligent in the first place by dealing with a lot of backstabbing.

This group knows the art of building rapport without revealing too much about themselves.

'Wait a minute bucko! I thought building rapport was all about revealing myself to the other.'

Nah. You're skipping steps homie.

And when you skip steps, you get snake bites. Let me give you a little social dynamics lesson.

You become socially intelligent by gaining social experience. No way around that. And when you gain social experience, you learn that the real world ain't all butterflies & rainbows.

You learn that there are a lot of snakes out there.

You learn that a lot of people do not have your best interest in mind.

Which is why you NEED a social filtration system.

The Social Filter:

-Stage 1: break ice

-Stage 2: break wall

-Stage 3: build rapport

-Stage 4: friend

Stage 1: Break