We're all pounded with the whole concept of success. We think that it means more money, more fame, more power. And yet when confronted with defining our own success, we realise there's something we haven't quite defined. In this episode we explore why feeling like a fraud is normal; why seemingly successful people define themselves differently when the spotlight is removed; why space is so critical to creating that identity. / / Identity is what holds us back. Identity is what can take us further. You'll love this episode! Links: To get the special "Resistance" PDF (It's cool, so get it) http://www.psychotactics.com/resistance To get some magic, go to magic: http://www.psychotactics.com/magic To get The Brain Audit, go to: http://www.psychotactics.com/brainaudit To leave reviews at iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/three-month-vacation-podcast/id946996410?mt=2  To leave reviews on Android http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=57686&refid=stpr ------------------------ In this episode Sean talks about Part 1: Why It Is Okay To Feel Like A Fraud Part 2: How We Define Success And How It Becomes Your Identity Part 3: The Factor Of Space And Why It Is Critical To Your Life Right click here and ‘save as’ to download this episode to your computer. Useful Resources How To Increase Your Pricing— Dartboard Pricing Why Headlines Fail—The Report Psychotactics Newsletter—Weekly slightly crazy, mostly zany marketing newsletter Audio and Transcript—Three Obstacles To Happiness (And How To Overcome Them) The  Transcript This is the Three Month Vacation. I’m Sean D’Souza. The Cherokee elder stood before his students and he told them of two wolves that live and battle within each one of us. One of these wolves, he explained, is ill-natured. It sees the worst in people and things. It thinks only of itself. It is vengeful, jealous, arrogant. It’s full of ego and false pride. The other wolf sees the best in people and things. It is kind, it is generous, it is peaceful. It is full of integrity and respect for love itself and others. One of the students asks the chief which one of these wolves wins the battle. The elder replied, “Whichever one you feed. Whichever one you feed, that is your identity.” When I started out in marketing, it was very easy for me to get fed by a lot of stuff around me. When you’re on Facebook, when you’re on the internet, there is a whole lot of junk out there. That junk makes you feel small. It makes you feel insignificant, and you’ve got to build an identity with the situation around you. How do you do it? In today’s episode we will cover the three elements of what was my journey. Also, it’s going to be your journey. The first element is one of feeling like a fraud. The second one is just one of success. What does it mean? Finally, the third one, which is one of space and why it’s so important. Part 1: Feeling Like A Fraud When you look at January of 2001, I didn’t really feel like a fraud, but by December of 2001 I was feeling more and more insecure. What happened between January and December to create all this insecurity? For many years, even as I was a kid, I used to draw. I was extremely shy, and I’ve been drawing my whole life. I became a cartoonist. I became a writer. That’s what shy people do. As I moved into the world of marketing, that completely threw me. I didn’t know that much about marketing. I didn’t know how people think, what they do, how they buy, the prices that they decide on. But I read this book by Jim Collins, which was called Good to Great. It asked what can you be the best in the world at. I thought I love the cartooning, I love the writing, but I want to do something different. The answer lay, strangely, in marketing. I was not into marketing. I just didn’t understand it. In all the years that I had run the cartooning business, I had done very little organized marketing. It was a good thing, because we moved to New Zealand and the public library was accessible, which was differen