EP 73 Pt. 1 of 2: Do you find yourself searching for the “Who? Why? & What hair oils should I be using in midlife?” Are you looking for ways to scratch those midlife “itchies” when it comes to comparison, career, and balancing all your kids after school activities? Do you really know how to shampoo your hair? Look no further for all answers on self-care, self-compassion, and approved self-obsession in midlife. Find out how my guest realized that she wouldn’t be able to “find herself”, and that she needed to “create” herself.  Join me, Dr. Sarah Milken, in an open and honest conversation called, “Tiktok Creator Shares Beauty Tips: How to Create Yourself, Not Find Yourself”. My guest, Amy Chang, is THE Instagram phenomenon, viral content creator, TikTok superstar, and health-conscious beauty blogger. She is known on all platforms as @bondenavant or bond en avant, which means “leap forward” in French. This is a magical two-part episode, so don’t miss it! In part one Amy (@bondenavant) discusses the importance of diving into your re-invention story without fear, harnessing the courage to be vulnerable online, and silencing the “inner mean girl” that wants to compare yourself to others. We chat on developing this mindset of “creating yourself”, as opposed to “finding yourself”. Amy vulnerably shares her own adoption &  foster story… and how her cultural identity was different from her adopted parents…her struggle to figure out who she was in the world and the steps she took to help figure it out.  She explains that this is how she let go of self-limiting definitions of success and just focused on her dream. Amy also talks about getting comfortable with “change” for personal growth. Amy tells us how she slowly built her career with 1.6 million social media followers, with one small step of starting a blog. Some Highlights:  Personal growth through identity crisis Being vulnerable is honest and it’s how you connect with your peers Pinpointing your north star and following it The path to self-identity is a self-creation process Looking forward to connecting with you! Here are some ways to connect with me! THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC SHOW NOTES: https://www.theflexibleneurotic.com/episodes/73 THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/theflexibleneurotic/  THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC WEBSITE: https://www.theflexibleneurotic.com/  THE FLEXIBLE NEUROTIC EMAIL: sarah@theflexibleneurotic.com