How to Focus More on Yourself: You Are Worth The Effort: Workbook

By Roberta L. Cavin, MS, LMHC

About the Book
After a long search for the all-in-one guide on being good to yourself, Roberta L. Cavin, MS, LMHC, took it upon herself to create the best guide with all the information needed to become the best you. With Cavin’s years of experience as a yoga instructor, counselor, and health coach, she combines all three into making one comprehensive guide for the mind, body, and soul.
How to Focus More on Yourself takes an in-depth look into healthy mindful habits, exercise, and eating right to guide you on a journey of bettering your entire being. For those who struggle with being at their best, there are helpful worksheets, templates, and organizers for better time management skills to aid you on your path to personal reflection. No matter what your situation, there is always a way out, and there are easy and simple tasks to get you on the road to a happier, healthier life.
About the Author
Roberta L. Cavin, MS, LMHC, works for a nonprofit counseling center in the Daytona Beach and Osmond Beach Florida locations. She has worked with many teens and adults who are looking to help their depression, anxiety, and low self-worth. Using art in her sessions helps her clients to feel more at ease with talking and aid in expressing themselves with something other than words. Cavin is a certified yoga instructor and uses yoga in therapy sessions to help with anxiety and depression. Additionally, she is a certified health coach to aid people in managing a proper diet, exercise, and overall health.
Cavin is married with two grown children and one stepson.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dorrance Publishing Company
• Release date: Oct 25, 2023
• ISBN: 9798886839760

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Roberta Cavin-Rothrock Introduction

I have been through books on the subject of being good to myself and I have not found one book with all that I was looking for. I have found multiple books, but that would mean shelling out a lot of money.

Because of this challenge, I began to put together my own workbook that would include a majority of what I was looking for. This workbook is still not perfect but is a lot closer than what I had found. I compiled information that would make the progress of learning how to put yourself first. If you are looking for more in-depth information, at least until the next revision comes out, then checking the internet would be another option. Mainly I was looking for something simple and effective that was close to Healthy Living for Dummies.

I have two master’s degrees in psychology. One in forensic psychology and one in mental health. I have been counseling individuals and families for a number of years and I have found no matter what age group I talk to, it is evident that the need for self-respect, self-confidence, and self-love is not a top priority as it should be. I did notice a pattern in a majority of my clients is that they tend to exclude themselves on what will make them happy and instead they focus on other people. Most don’t even know what they like or don’t like to do; they just go with what other people want. They want to make everyone else happy. My question to them is, how do you plan to help someone else be happy, when you yourself do not know what that is for you? We are not responsible for others to be happy and to help them be successful; they are responsible for finding out for themselves. We also should not be dependent on others to make us happy. We need to do that for ourselves. If we don’t know how, then we need to explore our own individuality and to learn who we are and how we can be the best we can be.

I’ll admit it took me a long time to realize that I need to do what makes me happy and I need to be happy with the path I am on. I kept looking for approval from parents, and when I discovered that getting their approval was not going to happen, it made me stop and say, Why should they matter? I like what I am doing, and I am proud of myself for forging ahead and completing what I have set out to do. Once I figured out that they don’t matter in what makes me happy, that was when I felt a huge weight come off my shoulders and found the road to self-happiness and success.  I to had to learn first on how to like myself

Let me help you with your journey to finding your own path. Find out what makes you happy and what you want your success to look like. Surround yourself with people who are cheering for you and who can give you moral support. You want people who can help you along your journey and remove the people that would hinder your progress.

CHAPTER 1

Self

Self-love is not only liking who you are, it is also how you take care of yourself. Self-love is being kind and considerate to yourself, treating yourself with respect and compassion, just as you treat your family and friends. Self-love is about being a little selfish, but not to the point of where we forget to love our fellow man/woman. You don’t have to step on someone else’s toes to get what you want, and you should not forsake your own toes and let others take advantage of you. You can reach a goal(s) and still take care of yourself without having to crush others. If we did that, we would be labeled highly narcissistic or borderline sociopath. Neither one is very nice.

Humans are creatures that are meant to be social, to be part of a community, to be in a relationship, to give and receive kindness, to lend a helping hand and to be accepted for who we are as an individual. We try so hard to fit in to the point that we forget how we want or should be treated and we ignore how we feel about things that give us the ability to be an individual and that we count as a member of the community. How can we remain an individual and be part of the community when we become so wrapped up in what others may want from us that we leave out our thoughts and feelings? To be a member of the community or be in a relationship of any kind does not mean that it is all about what we can give or what others can take from us. Why is it that you feel the need to constantly give and give to others? When you do that, you become an empty shell, and why do you still feel that you are not worthy enough to receive any scrap of what you have given out?

We learn how to treat