Amazing Irresistible You

By Olivia Stan

Are you a woman who's ready to start dating but would like to work on unleashing your irresistible self first? Would you like to build your self-esteem, regain control over your life, and tap into the power of self-love before finding the right partner? This is the book that will empower you to be amazingly confident, pick the right man, and have fun while dating!

 

Research shows that one in eight women have given up on finding love. Their reasons? They don't believe there is someone out there for them, they don't feel attractive enough, and they believe they keep on attracting the wrong guys! Does this feel like you?

 

Amazing Irresistible You is more than just a book focused on dating tips and seduction skills. It's a comprehensive guide that will teach you how to practice self-love and boost your confidence before delving into the dating world. So, whether you're just a newbie or looking to rebuild your self-esteem, you'll be able to recognize your wants and needs first so that you can establish healthy boundaries.

 

Inside Amazing Irresistible You, you'll discover:

• the importance of getting to know yourself first before dating: Identify your expectations, unpack your own behavior, and use these 5 introspection tips to invest in your sense of self.
• more than 10 common relationship problems and the effective methods to deal with them, no matter how complicated you think the situation is.
• 7 common red flags you should look out for, how to spot them, and what you should do if your potential partner portrays them
• how to prioritize yourself by setting clear boundaries. PLUS: You'll learn how to communicate them clearly to your loved ones while accommodating theirs!
• the best way to prepare yourself for dating, by setting relationship goals, learning effective communication skills, and learning to forgive yourself from your past mistakes.

After reading this book, you'll never doubt your potential to find true love. No more kissing frogs, doubting yourself, or repeating the same mistakes. You're about to enjoy dating again!

 

Are you ready to rediscover yourself and experience real love? Then read Amazing Irresistible You now!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Olivia Stan
• Release date: Dec 25, 2022
• ISBN: 9798215505298

Book preview

INTRODUCTION

The dating world can be scary. It would be difficult to encounter anyone who hasn’t had some sort of horror story to tell about the dating world, whether you are about to enter it, or take a crack at it again due to your current external factors. The hope is that through this book you will have the perfect confidant that you can keep along the way. The journey you might be undertaking won't be a smooth ride. There is a secret, though, which it is crucial for us to share with you before we dive into the contents of this book.

I don’t intend to give you the generic dating tips that litter how-to-blogs and dominate magazine articles. I am not here to sell you any kind of tips that will not be beneficial to the upliftment of your wellbeing. No, the goal here is for you to look inward, and learn to love yourself first, before even considering letting another person into your life, because what is important is your needs, wants, and confidence in who you are meant to be.

In short, this book is not here as a sure-fire way for you to find a man.

If you have consumed any kind of romance media, you probably learned that the key to happiness is finding that soulmate, and living happily ever after. Don’t misunderstand me; being in love and finding that special someone in your life is a great feeling. However, it does not need to be the sole source of your happiness. Loving yourself is better. As humans, we are multifaceted; to put it simply, we have layers, and those layers make up who we are and what we need. When you consider insecurities, such as the fear of rejection, or struggling with concepts such as Imposter Syndrome, then you'd quickly find that many—not all—of our relationship problems are usually because of what we project into the world. Sometimes even our problems originate from that intense drive to disregard ourselves, so we sacrifice our overall health for a man in our lives.

Through this experience you will learn the basics of looking internally, projecting positivity, and using the method of affirmative healing to help you gain that drive back, the drive that will restart your life, and give you the much-deserved attention that you could be denying yourself due to the plethora of insecurities that plague our lives.

If you're worried that this book won't help you at all in forming bonds with people, especially gaining a future love life, don't worry. It won’t just be about insecurities and the concept of focusing on yourself; we will also unpack how to look at future relationships, and important behavioral traits. You won't be left in the dark with no survival gear—this book is your handbook to craft the survival gear that will last you a lifetime. AS I’ve said, think of it as your confidant that will assist you in taking control of your life, despite whatever hand you might have been dealt.

Stop a minute and think about what comes to your mind when you think about dating. Dating is a universal concept, but many of us have different perceptions and expectations of what dating should be. Some people enjoy casual dating, while others would like to meet someone who would be willing to commit to them for much longer than that. Whatever the case may be, I believe we can all say that we all deserve love. Life is already hard as it is. So, if you find someone who is willing to love you even through your imperfections, then you are one lucky individual.

Ask yourself why it is that you want to start dating. After all, there are also some negative reasons why we would want to commit to a relationship. Perhaps you have been single and content for years; then, if you want to date, why now? Some people would say they are feeling the pressure of age, and that is valid. Others might feel pressured into dating because everyone else in their friendship group is dating; this, on the other hand, is not a good idea.

Dating is a very serious commitment that you would be making to someone else. You need to be sure that you are not entering dating entirely for selfish reasons, because if that is the case, the person you meet will feel drained by the expectations that they will have to fulfill to keep the relationship going.

Some of us battle with identity. We ask ourselves, Who am I? It is quite important to make sure that you know yourself before you merge yourself with someone else. And if you don’t already know, you need first to get to know yourself. This is to prevent situations where you end up living out a lie just to impress the person you are with. You see, if you already know who you are, then the people around you will also have an idea of who you are. This means that the person you attract will have a better chance of being attracted to the real you. So, in that way, you will not have to create a facade with which you try to impress them. And, in turn, you are less likely to lose yourself.

You need to learn that everyone, including yourself, has a manner in which they relate with others. And this characteristic relationship style is one that we adopt when we are young, depending on how we were treated in infancy. I would like to note that some relationship styles are easier than others. But this does not mean that should you have a difficult style, you will not be able to have fruitful relationships in the future. It just says that you should be careful about the way you interact with people. And maybe you can even go to therapy if problems in your relationships occur at a later phase of life.

The relationships we have in the past have a strong hold on us. Your past romantic relationships might influence your current relationship. Although most of us would like to live forever after with the people to whom we commit, some of them end up in our past. But the impact they had on our lives is not easy to shake off. Some of these impacts are good, while others are not ideal. This is because while you may have met someone who taught you how to be kinder and gentler with others and yourself, there is someone else who may have been with someone who ate away at their self-esteem. So, you need to analyze how your previous relationships have impacted you before you get into a new relationship. This is to make sure that you do not carry baggage from other relationships into a new one, because what this does often is lead to you projecting onto another person the things that were done to you before. And although this new person may mean well, they may grow tired of trying to prove that they are not like that person from your past.

One of the other reasons why people fail in relationships is because they self-sabotage themselves. They believe that because they have hurt people in the past, they do not deserve love. This then creates a cycle where each time they meet someone who treats them well, they push them away one way or another. Or, what is worse, they would rather be with people who don't treat them right, because they feel they deserve that over the alternative. What is important in this case is to forgive yourself. Of course, you will need to apologize to those you have hurt first, but then you need to arrive at a point where you forgive yourself.

As individuals we need to talk about taking a breather to love yourself as you love others. We need to understand that the best love you can ever feel is self-love. After all, you are the one individual you spend forever with. So, you need to make sure that your heart and your mind are always in the right space. That way you will be able to love better the people who are around you, because you will be flowing from a full cup. Loving yourself is a task that should not be taken lightly. It can be quite hard to love yourself through the insecurities in your head. A very long journey of life and trauma may have taught you to hate yourself. People may have told you that you are not good enough. However, this does not mean that you have to carry on listening and believing that narrative. You can choose to put an end to the pain of past bullying, and choose to re-invent yourself into an individual who is wholly happy within themselves. As a result, you will be in a better position to love another person.

I need you to start having a personal conversation with yourself about the things that you want in a relationship. If you already have someone who is looking your way, then you have an opportunity for love. That is of