Teach Me How to Live Realistically Single: Dating with Class, Character, and Integrity!

By Dr. Jennifer Gilbert

A book for singles, by a single, concerning being single, Teach Me How to Realistically Live Single, by author Dr. Jennifer Gilbert, walks you through the ins and outs of how to live, love, and date realistically as a single. It shares the pitfalls that many have fallen prey to and how to not only recover but keep it from happening again.

This guide was penned by a powerful woman who has lived through all walks of relationships. She has also lived as a single mom, a married woman, divorcee, Christian, preacher, and professional, and she has walked in many other shoes concerning love and relationships. Dr. Gilbert explores the various factors that may affect life as a single and the issues that influence dating decisions.

Touching on what she believes to be the five basic components that affect ones ability to live single, she discusses how she learned to live her best life realistically single. She tackles topics such as online dating, multidating (a term she coined herself), and the red flags that present themselves in todays dating game.

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: Dec 22, 2017
• ISBN: 9781532036446

Dr. Jennifer Gilbert

Dr. Jennifer Gilbert is a seasoned teacher that has worked throughout the state of Texas and the surrounding areas. She has also worked overseas teaching English as a Second Language. She was born in Lawton, Oklahoma but raised worldwide by a military family but always knew that she wanted to be an educator. She is an honored high school graduate of Bradwell Institute in Hinesville, Georgia, Class of 1993. She completed the beginning of her college career with a High Honored Associates in Child Development and Business Administration and has completed her Bachelors in the same areas of expertise at Tarleton State University. She also completed her Masters in Adult Education and Training at the University of Phoenix. She has her Ph.D. in Christian Education from Northwestern Theological Seminary School and has completed all but her dissertation for her Educational Doctorates (Ed.D). She has two children and a grandson.

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ISBN: 978-1-5320-3645-3 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-5320-3644-6 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2017916846

iUniverse rev. date: 12/22/2017

CONTENTS

Card Or Series Title Page

Dedication

Epigraph

Foreword

Preface

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Living Realistically Single Framework

Chapter 1

Religious Beliefs About Singleness

Chapter 2

The Education Vs. Miseducation Of Living Single

The Roots Of The Word Relationship

Education

Forward Thinking No Nos!!

Online Dating

Multi-Dating

The Dichotomy Of Singleness

Chapter 3

The S Words

Sex

The Effects Of Sex

The Influences Of Sex

Settling

Needs

Desires

Aspirations

Beliefs

Safety

1. Intensity

2. Jealousy

3. Control

4. Isolation

6. Sabotage

7. Blame

8. Anger

Healthy Versus Unhealthy Relationships

Signs Of Emotional Abuse

Cycle Of Violence

Singleness

Satisfaction

Self-Solidarity

Chapter 4

Marriage I Do Vs. I Choose Not To

There Is No Such Thing As A Soul Mate!

There Is No Such Thing As Your Better Half

Desiring Questions Of Deep Self Exploration And Desire

Chapter 5

Personal Beliefs About Singleness

1. Question Of The Day

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23. Question Of The Day

24. Question Of The Day

Epilogue

Afterword

Teach Me How To Live Realistically Single Workbook

Conclusion

Resources

About The Author

Endorsements

I have been struggling with the relationship balance. I feel I don’t have time to deal with the obligations that go along with being in a relationship. This has really let me see the different concepts others have to this. I know who I am, and I don’t have to lose me if I am in a relationship. So, my singleness has been a chance for me to grow as a person, and recognize that being with me and just me is ok. I have God and am never alone. And my thoughts are not scary they are me.

Cathy Farrar

This group has me looking multi dating as an option. At first I didn’t agree with it and thought it was wrong. But now I see you can use it as long as you not having sex. To see what you like and dislike.

Freddy Ray Davis

As a newlywed I am still growing out of the independent woman phase, and it has also bought me closer to God. I never truly depended on God, as much as I love him, and I had to learn that if I wasn’t truly having an intimate relationship with God, how can I learn to have an intimate relationship with my husband. And your group has helped me to see that I’m not the only one that went through the things that I did when I was single, mistakes and all, but you have also helped me through confirmations to see what I need to work on to improve my relationship skills. Love you cousin and I’m proud of you.

Michelle Dickey King

Being my age, older than dirt, I have watched and read the comments of the Facebook Think Tank with the knowledge that there are intelligent single people out there who actually care about themselves and are concerned for having better dating concepts and relationships and not just dating to be a notch on someone’s belt buckle of conquests. Thank you to Jennifer and all who participated in the think tank. Your future is far brighter than most singles. Amen you guys.

Susan Arthurs

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Also by Jennifer Gilbert

Churchin’ Ain’t Easy (2011)

…And Deliver Us From People! (2013)

For the Perfecting of the Saints (2014)

365 Revelatory Words for Any Given Day (2017)

Help! My Students Are Bored And So Am I! (2017)

The Data Driven Instructional Classroom (2017)

The Journey Back to Me (2017)

DEDICATION

I dedicate this book to all of the singles who have tried to live single according to all the rules, superficial timelines and gimmicks. We have read the books that tell us to wait 90 days for this and 3 dates for that and 10 visits before this. We have been in the churches that told us to make the lists and lay it before the Lord and believe that he will give us the desires of our hearts. We have had to endure the hardship of blind dates, speed dates, dating sites only to remain in the same