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    Loss, Love & Lessons: Finding Happiness Again After a Devastating Loss

    by Solomon D. Stevens Ph.D Aug 28, 2021 5 minutes
    Loss, Love & Lessons: Finding Happiness Again After a Devasting Loss, by Dr. Solomon Stevens. Photograph of street art of a girl releasing a heart shaped balloon by Karim Manjra.
    Photograph by Karim Manjra

    Estimated reading time: 7 minutes

    When my wife passed away at 65, I couldn’t imagine life without her. How was I supposed to live? My happiness was gone…

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    How do we survive loss? I had never been tested in this regard, and then I found myself in the middle of more than I could ever imagined. I wasn’t sure how to find my way through it all, or if I would be able to.

    Within the space of a few months, both of my parents passed away. I felt their absence deeply, but I wasn’t devastated. As hard as it is, I realized that it is the way of the world to lose one’s parents. Then on the day I returned from my mother’s funeral, my wife collapsed on the floor next to me. And that was it.

    When my Bonnie passed away,

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