WHY HIGH ACHIEVERS BINGE EAT AND HOW TO STOP
PODCAST #380 
This week on The Confidence Podcast we're getting vulnerable. We'll be talking about something often considered taboo and shameful, and my prayer is that by opening dialogue, it will remove the stigma and help set you free to pursue healing and hope, if not just for you, for someone you know. 

What is the relationship between high achievers and binge eating - and while we're at it, what exactly qualifies as a binge
The real thing that binge eating behaviors are indicators of
5 ways how to stop binge eating 


REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Humbling & Grounding - 5 Stars, by SustainingSara
I recently went through a lot of changes in life - a new job and a new city of residence. During that time, I lost a lot of myself and my relationship with God started to lack. I started listening to Trish and not only does she help me find parts of myself to fall in love with again, but also she reminds me to love God and his ever-watching eyes of grace. Thank you, Trish. Most of all, thank you for not being afraid to be honest and real about the struggle in life, especially not being afraid to remind everyone of God's greatness. 

HIGH ACHIEVER: WHAT IS IT? 
Perfectionist, type-A, go-getter, someone striving, wants to be seen, eager to please, on-the-go, focused and disciplined. 
For me, I wanted to stand out, be exceptional - be worth being loved and seen. I was convince that I was forgettable - but wanted to be remembered and for me, as an athlete, being stand out meant that my body had to be stand out. I was the little girl with ab muscles that popped through her Speedo one-piece when she was 8-years-old; I got a lot of comments on that. If I wasn't her, then who was I?
EXCEPRT FROM MY NEWEST BOOK (IN PROGRESS)
It started with a comment from a friend. We were ten-years-old at our neighborhood pool. I was wearing my Speedo one-piece and she and her gorgeous twin sister donned skimpy string bikinis that I would never have been allowed to wear. Every boy in Lake of the Woods wanted to date those twins, I was happy to be friends with them to get cool points by association.
She didn’t mean to hurt me. But her words stung my heart in a way that burned deeply into my identity for over a decade later. 
“Your brother is so hot,” she started. “You look nothing like him. Are you sure you have the same parents?”
Laughs were had. I waited desperately for the whistle to blow, the lifeguard being my salvation to escape underwater into the pool. I remember diving in, trying to run away from the shame. Everyone wanted to see and be seen with my brother. And, if according to her words, I truly was nothing like him, that meant that I wasn’t worth looking at.
I was embarrassed of myself and how I looked. 
There wasn’t anything I could inherently point to either – my body was athletic, ripped actually for a little girl, and I was well-liked for being a good swimmer. But being liked for what I could do felt very different than being liked for who I was or how I looked. 
In high school and college, I convinced myself that I was forgettable. Sure, my teammates, classmates, and friends knew who I was, but in general? I felt like I looked so average that I was easily confused with other people. 
Since no one could see me, there was only one way to stand out: by doing everything in a way that I would be seen. 
Perhaps you are like me. I believed I had value for what I could do, not necessarily for who I was. I desperately craved to matter, but how could I matter if I couldn’t be seen or if I was merely average and forgettable? 
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Before you ever believe that God sees you, you first have to experience being seen – for who you really are, not for what you do – by a human. This sounds basic and obvious, but most of us live such busy, achievement-focused lives that we connect being seen with what we do. But being seen for what you do isn’t very impressive, it’s rather dull and expected.