Shifting from a past you want to get better from isn’t one-click magic that will happen in just a blink of an eye. However, whether we admit it or not, we tend to bully ourselves to change most of the time, thinking that seeing ourselves in a negative manner will push us harder and faster towards what we want in life.But let me tell you now; you’ve been doing it all wrong if that’s where you’re at.It takes time. There’s the need to de-identify. It might even lead you to ask a lot of why’s.No matter how hard you try, if your actions are coming only from the fear you have inside, you’ll only get stuck.Join us as we discuss the importance of self-love and compassion in this episode with Atoosa Rubenstein.Atoosa Rubenstein is the former Editor in Chief of Seventeen Magazine and is also Founder and Editor in Chief of CosmoGirl, two of the most loved magazines during its active years. Currently, Atoosa is an author.In this episode, Atoosa shares how she has shifted from her “fake bitch” past into a more authentic space in all aspects of her well-being. Here, she talks about her story as she reminds people that fear-based thinking isn’t the right way to go when dealing with positive change.What you will learn from this episode:Discover how powerful self-love and self-compassion is in your journey towards a positive change;Understand why things need to come from the space of love and not fear;Find out the importance of practicing de-identification in terms of getting better with self-care.Check the love letters she wrote for her readers called “Atoosa Unedited” by visiting https://atoosa.substack.com.Key Takeaways:“Self-love and compassion have to be the soundtrack. You cannot do it because you feel embarrassed. You can't do it because you think you're a loser. You can't do it because you're worried you'll lose your husband or boyfriend or never find one. You have to do it because you deserve to be happy and you deserve all good things. It has to come from that place of love.” – Atoosa Rubenstein“When the fruit is ready to come off the tree, it pops right off, and it's not a hard decision.” – Atoosa Rubenstein“Just because you can doesn't mean you should.” – Dr. Adrienne Youdim Ways to Connect with Atoosa Rubenstein:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/atoosa-rubenstein-68341a13a/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/atoosarubensteinhttps://atoosa.substack.com.Ways to Connect with Adrienne Youdim:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradrienneyoudim/Website: https://dradrienneyoudim.com/ Recommended Resource Hungry for More: Stories and Science to Inspire Weight Loss From the Inside Out by Dr. Adrienne Youdim If you love it and you think it is of benefit, please share this podcast with one person that you love. You can also go to dradrienneyoudim.com/podcast if you prefer to get more podcast updates from us.