Assertive Communication for Black Women: NLP Techniques, Non-Verbal Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Exercises and More!: Self-Care for Black Women, #5

By B. TRUE

The Art of Assertive Communication for Black Women

Have you ever wondered why no one wants to listen to you? Do you envy a friend that everyone enjoys listening to and paying absolute attention to?

Assertive communication is actually a skill that can be learned and perfected along the way. Clear, authentic self-expression and active listening are key ingredients of this course.

 

IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO BE SEEN, BE HEARD, AND TO GET WHAT YOU DESERVE. Only then will you be able to find real balance in your life. While they can coexist, assertiveness doesn't mean being aggressive or loud.

 

In this book, you will discover a STEP-BY-STEP ACTION PLAN, taking you on a transformative journey towards building more confidence that's rooted in a polite and kind contact with the people around you

Here is what you will find in this guide on Assertive Communication:

• HOW TO LEARN TO SAY NO
• ASSERTIVENESS AND EMOTIONS
• LEARN TO MANAGE STRESS
• IDENTIFY YOUR NEEDS
• ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION AND PSYCHOLOGY
• TECHNIQUES AND EXERCISES TO COMMUNICATE ASSERTIVELY
• DEFENSE TECHNIQUES
• ASSERTIVITY EXERCISES: THE 7 LEVELS
• ASSERTIVITY EXERCISES IN REAL SITUATIONS
• ASSERTIVITY EXERCISES: THE EXERCISES OF SHAME
• NLP TECHNIQUES
• CALIBRATION
• VERBAL, NON-VERBAL AND PARAVERBAL
• EXERCISES AND HABITS
• MIRRORING
• LEARN TO ESTABLISH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
• WAYS TO TRAIN COUPLE ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION
• HOW TO DEVELOP EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
• HOW TO GET RESPECTED AT WORK
• BEING ASSERTIVE WITH CHILDREN
• SURVIVING CRITICISM WITH ASSERTIVENESS
• And much more!

Being assertive allows you to communicate your wants and needs more authoritatively while remaining fair and empathetic. It can also help you to become more self-confident, and even improve your mental health.

So, if you'd like to be a more confident, assertive individual, you are at the right place

The information in this guide will teach you the necessary SKILLS TO BE DECISIVE AND IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. Start your change NOW. Grab your copy, and let's start this journey together.

• Language: English
• Publisher: B. TRUE
• Release date: Feb 3, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201984236

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ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION FOR BLACK WOMEN

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

Assertiveness

The assertiveness of women in contemporary society

CHAPTER 1: WHAT IS ASSERTIVENESS?

Bower's definition of assertiveness

Weisinger's definition of assertiveness

How to learn to say NO

Assertiveness and emotions

Assertiveness to solve interpersonal problems

But what does assertiveness actually mean?

Assertiveness allows you to have your say while respecting other people's wishes

Are you assertive?

Know your emotions

Learn to communicate effectively

Learn to manage stress

Identify your needs

CHAPTER 2: WHAT IS ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION

The virtuous circle of assertiveness

Seeing is believing

Assertiveness and freedom

Assertive communication and psychology

CHAPTER 3: TECHNIQUES AND EXERCISES TO COMMUNICATE ASSERTIVELY

Communication techniques

Critical in a constructive way

Constructive criticism

Assertive criticism vs manipulative criticism

Defense techniques

Negative assertion: how to accept the criticism

Negative inquiry

Broken disk

Fog

Disarming aggressivity

Selectively ignore

How learning works

Assertiveness as a tool of self-affirmation

Expression of Feelings

Assertiveness and initiative

Recommended reading

Assertive communication exercises to Learn

CHAPTER 4: EXERCISES IN ASSERTIVENESS AND SHAME

Assertivity exercises: the 7 levels

Assertivity exercises: practical examples

Behavioral discrimination exercises

Practice on the management of specific situations

Assertivity exercises in real situations

Operation of simple road directions

Exercise of complex road indications

Simple shop exercise

Exercise of the complex shop

To say NO

Assertivity exercises: the exercises of shame

Exercises of shame

CHAPTER 5: WHAT IS NLP

How does NLP work?

What types of NLP are there?

To whom the NLP method can help

The map is not the territory

Behavior is oriented towards adaptation

CHAPTER 6: CALIBRATION

What is calibration?

CHAPTER 7: VERBAL, NON-VERBAL AND PARAVERBAL

Types of communication

Elements of paraverbal language

Exercises and habits

Example of paraverbal communication

Why is active listening so important?

CHAPTER 8: MIRRORING

Attention

CHAPTER 9: LEARN TO SAY NO

Selfishness

Paradoxical right?

CHAPTER 10: LEARN TO ESTABLISH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

Through your borders you affirm yourself

Borders are a form of respect

What are our borders?

CHAPTER 11: HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IN THE COUPLE

Ways to train couple assertive communication

Express what we think and feel

Learn to speak for ourselves

Empathic listening must be practiced

How do I know how you feel if you don't tell me?

CHAPTER 12: WHAT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS

What does emotional intelligence mean

How to develop emotional intelligence

CHAPTER 13: BE ASSERTIVE AT WORK

CHAPTER 14: HOW TO GET RESPECTED AT WORK

CHAPTER 15: BEING ASSERTIVE WITH CHILDREN

CHAPTER 16: SURVIVING CRITICISM WITH ASSERTIVENESS

CONCLUSIONS

INTRODUCTION

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n contemporary society, it is often difficult for women to be assertive and to recognize their rights, needs, and desires.

Being assertive means being able to express one's needs and feelings within the shared space of relationships, respecting the needs and rights of others; it means being able to weave authentic relationships within which to freely express one's points of view, without feeling obliged to please others at all costs; openly communicate their emotions, even the most complex ones, such as, for example, disagreement, without subsequently experiencing feelings of guilt.

Unfortunately, we live in a society, which develops various forms of fiction, which discourages sincerity in favor of falsehood. Within all of this, women are given the doubly difficult task of skillfully participating in these social games, at the same time having to pretend an absence of spiritual needs.

When Cinderella said NO, wonderful things happened, the pumpkin changed into a carriage, the mice became splendid steeds, the rags dirty with ashes and consumed by an exhausting sacrifice were transformed into a magnificent dress and, finally, the crystal slippers. Then, the essential appearance of Prince Charming who saved Cinderella from the wickedness of her stepmother and stepsisters by taking her with him and taking her (perhaps, locking her up) to her beautiful castle. The continuation of the Cinderella story is usually liquidated in little more than two words: And they lived happily ever after... The End. , More is not known.

Are we sure it went like this?

Why, Cinderella, do you find it so difficult to say No? What do you believe, what do you think of yourself? Why, Cinderella, do you think she can be redeemed from a sad and unsatisfactory life only by the providential appearance of this external intervening variable, this Charming Prince?

Assertiveness; everyone talks about it, but few know it

Assertiveness

Being assertive means being able to express one's needs and feelings within the shared space of relationships, respecting the needs and rights of others; it means being able to weave authentic relationships within which to freely express one's points of view, without feeling obliged to please others at all costs; openly communicate their emotions, even the most complex ones, such as disagreement, without subsequently experiencing feelings of guilt. You need to have full awareness of your worth, have good self-esteem, have a clear awareness of your dignity as a human being.

The assertiveness of women in contemporary society

Assertive women, very rare whiteflies, are usually uncomfortable because they displace, they say what they think, they are sure of themselves, they do not allow themselves to be hurt, they do not change their mind about their worth; they are clear about their rights and needs and they act with respect for the rights and needs of others. They are capable of affirming their own identity, their principles; they are effective when it comes to finding adequate space and time for the expression of their emotions, their desires, of what they feel deep down; they face the fear of communicating a No which will probably have a price to pay, which will involve the risk of being unpopular, the risk of being liked less or even not being liked at all.

In our culture, unfortunately, it has always been customary to educate females to assume an oblative attitude, to always be perfect and graceful, to please, always putting in the foreground the satisfaction of the needs of others, to devote themselves to personal sacrifice for the family, for children, for work.

In this society it seems that feminine must necessarily rhyme with servile and expendable; the enormous effort of a woman, used to being passive, to conceive the possibility of assertively expressing what she feels (disagreement, sadness, fear, anger), of communicating her needs, of saying that No (always respecting rights and needs of others) that someone else might be displeased with.

Dear woman, therefore, adapt your needs to the child (whom you have already given birth with immeasurable pain and risking your life) and to the family: your life, from now on, will be theirs; in the future, when they no longer need you, perhaps at the cost of unimaginable sacrifices, you can go back to thinking about yourself and your profession but, now, you are no longer useful elsewhere.

Many women, like Cinderella, learn to live for the happiness of others, without ever setting limits to the demands of others, of society, and this often happens for years, sometimes, for a lifetime. The hair, day after day, is dried by the ash, the look goes out and the hands, the back, the life appear worn out by the constant attempt to keep everything always in order, united, functioning, and perfect; the mind no longer has room for imagination, for the desire for personal fulfillment, for ambition; the small heart, too often full only of passive hope and of the firm belief that only the arrival of someone, from outside themselves, can save them, can allow them to get better.

Assertive women do not trust them, or their thoughts, or their decisions; they are never safe, they do not feel strong or effective; they do not feel competent and do not believe in their personal ability to bring about change; they never really feel like protagonists of their own life (they are not...), they live the life that someone else has thought of for them and they end up not knowing who they are anymore. Then, suddenly, the drama of not recognizing oneself and of feeling suffocated by the anguish of an unwanted life; the weight of those yeses is seldom felt and it becomes unbearable and anger explodes, irrepressible, together with many other very strong emotions. On these uncertain occasions, where clarity fails, the most unlikely decisions are often made and the famous longest steps of the leg are made, like Cinderella who thinks she has found her only way out, her salvation in Prince Charming but, in reality, she entrusts her life to someone else, decides to ride with her dreams, her hopes and her own body on the white horse and tenaciously clings to Prince Charming, who takes her with him to a castle which can easily turn into a narrow and suffocating cage again.

Unfortunately, in reality, reckless, impulsive, unweighted behaviors, sudden