We take another dive into discussing common barriers to communication and relationship security with writer Lola Phoenix, who has been navigating this for theirself and others online and IRL for years.2:00 a lot of common questions5:00 power dynamics8:00 on being protective of the community 10:00 what are your biggest challenges with non-monogamy?14:00 disagreement doesn’t have to be scary17:00 forgive yourself for being afraid of abandonment22:00 attention helps us to survive25:00 I will grow my own life regardless of you27:00 what is an anchor? A personal reason for doing 32:00 is being primary the most fun?36:00 we are primed for monogamy39:00 personal preference is not the rule42:00 jealousy regarding sleepovers/sex46:00 i don’t need to hear the details for you to have fun50:00 red flags vs irrational53:00 women have to look for threats regularly56:00 book suggestions59:00 object impermanance1:03:00 how to ask for partner support1:08:00 on hiring a sex worker36:00 people are encouraged to be monogamous