Have you considered the difference between what people want versus what they truly need in relationships, and how does this understanding impact your approach to forming connections? This introspective exploration can have a profound influence on how you approach building meaningful bonds. Today's guest is Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan. Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.Violetta and Figs unveil the impact of childhood experiences on your ability to love and how self-sabotaging patterns might be holding you back and decode your attachment style and learn how taking responsibility for your actions and emotions can transform your connections. Whether you're seeking self-growth or hoping to form healthier bonds, don't miss out on this empowering conversation that peels back the layers of love, relationships, and healing.   What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:14 Are you in a toxic relationship?04:15 What can we do about a toxic partner?06:23 When you’re in a threatened vulnerable state08:02 Are you in a system together?13:36 When in your reality your partner is hurting you16:14 How childhood experiences affect our ability to love17:56 Self-sabotaging patterns 19:49 The natural fear to fall in love23:31 Struggling to open up 25:25 Know what’s your attachment style29:18 Taking responsibility of our actions and emotions33:21 Both need to show up for each other36:28 Foster empathy for yourself and others42:31 The gray area on first dates47:36 Here’s what you should focus on when dating50:07 Finding healing through forming relationships55:31 What is a co-dependent relationship?01:00:48 Doing self work to not attract what you lack01:04:19 Glorification of people protecting themselves from getting hurt01:07:29 What people really need is not what they wantConnect with Figs on:https://empathi.com/ https://www.tiktok.com/@empathinow https://www.facebook.com/EmpathiNow/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.