How does social standing relate to sexuality and dating? Have you ever been ostracized for reasons unclear, or been targeted in a smear campaign? Licensed counselor Halle Thomas joins me to discuss the complex issues and impacts of cancel-bullying.2:00 former Catholic, queer and Creole4:00 writing about shame 6:00 grief, racial and sexual identity and relational problems9:00 originated in Black queer spaces12:00 elle hates it when people lie about abuse18:00 cancel-bullying is a suicide risk 21:00 obsessive behavior and unhealthy impacts 25:00 RSD - rejection sensitivity dysphoria29:00 Elle hits pregnant strippers, pass it on31:00 making people houseless for “justice”38:00 how to recognize people that aim to be destructive42:00 stalking and violence and victim’s gender45:00 when you’re being targeted 54:00 definition of fighting 57:00 identifying friends who exaggerate claims against them1:01:00 impact vs intent 1:06:00 Bebe Montoya, Africa Brooke, Juniper Cameryn, Clementine Morrigan, Jay Lesoleil - cancellation resources1:10:00 life after cancellationFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @chicorycounseling and chicorycounseling.comWrite to Elle about the show theytalksex@protonmail.comSponsored by Aqua Lube– 20AQUALUBE takes 20% off your lube purchase through June 27th.Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)