In a culture that doesn’t understand grief, how do survivors of intimate partner death loss navigate their sexuality? Counselor and author Megan Devine offers help with libido, relationships and shame.1:00 she was a counselor before her husband died3:00 reflecting on the “before” life7:00 death can feel like different rooms in hell 9:00 people are afraid of death and sexuality12:00 the blaming suicide survivors or victims13:00 elle’s advice for suicide grief survivors17:00 craving their body that no longer exists22:00 anchoring, comforting, sex can help26:00 what is normal?29:00 what is working for my healing? what is more dangerous?35:00 any kind of pleasure during grief can create guilt40:00 personal agency is important43:00 pleasure doesn’t cancel out pain47:00 skin to skin contact is soothing52:00 loving again feels scary55:00 a new podcast about grief - for helpers!1:00:00 when the connection urge still exists:1:05:00 resources and recommendations 1:08:00 sex after death advice means having curiosity