I get it. It’s so damn annoying.   Your brain is CONSUMED with him/her. It’s all you can think about… I would have paid big money to just mechanically erase him from my brain. I haven’t found that solution but I found something else that works!   Our brain has 60k-80k thoughts in a day, and the brain is an efficient organ. So when it can run on default it wants to and it will. So when someone used to be in our life every day, it’s easy for the brain to focus on that person not being in our life.   We must learn to manage our brain, to purposefully decide and rewire it to focus on the thoughts that serve us, that propel us forward in our future, instead of keeping us stuck in the past.   However, the #1 mistake I see people doing when attempting this is trying to paste a positive sticky note over a negative event or situation, that will not create lasting change. Learn how to find neutrality in your situation to then refocus your brain on what you can control, which is YOU.   In this episode: Why your brain can’t stop thinking about him/her How to find neutrality in your breakup to manager your mind to feel better Letting go of beliefs you no longer tolerate Find evidence to support a new story about your breakup