Our negative reactions to the painful experiences of life that are often more harmful than those experiences themselves. Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore how we can avoid these “second darts."If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price.Sponsor Message: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Connect with the show:Visit us on the webFollow us on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookSubscribe on iTunesThe material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book!Timestamps:0:40: What are the first and second darts?2:50: An example of first and second darts.5:15: Finding where you have influence.7:15: Avoiding adding second darts.12:30: Not fueling second darts.15:00: Changing the channel on second darts.15:50: Managing second darts in relationships.18:55: Sticking to first darts when communicating.21:10: Recap