Mentally Unbreakable: Self improvement

By Fadi Khoury

The purpose of this book is to assist you in achieving more success in whichever area of your life you'd want to focus on. In other words, it will teach you how to strengthen your mental fortitude in the face of adversity.

If you want to get through this, you will have to put in the effort. It's going to entail hard work. It'll take effort and a lot of frustration to get there. However, the benefits of developing mental strength are substantial. As a result, you'll have a greater sense of effectiveness, power, and influence. In the end, you'll have the confidence to take on anything that comes your way.

The confidence you'll get as a result of this gradual shift in mentality - and it is a process - will help you revolutionize your life. Your concentration determines whether you flourish as a parent, achieve better success as a company owner, or improve the connections you have with your friends and loved ones.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Fadi Khoury
• Release date: Aug 17, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201889081

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Don't Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Self-pity is difficult for many people to overcome, especially those who are troubled by irrational beliefs. Although not only troubled people suffer from self-pity, anyone can be a victim of self-pity. Even if we want to quit feeling sorry for ourselves, it's a habit that can be difficult to break.

When you are faced with a stressful situation, it is normal to feel sorry for yourself. But I believe that self-pity is so much more than that. In a simple term, self-pity provides a sense of pleasure that distracts the victim from the reality of a situation.

Self-pity is based on a strong sense of dread and worthlessness. This is often caused by a lack of self-compassion and love when we are down on our luck. The problem is that instead of focusing on the positive aspects of our lives, we dwell on the negative. Sometimes, I think we've all felt this way. It's possible that for some people, self-pity is just an occasional pit stop on the path to a better future, while for others, it can become an everyday habit.

With or without an economic downturn, hardship is unavoidable, regardless of how difficult the situation may seem at first. You have complete control over how you respond to life's unavoidable obstacles. When faced with a difficult situation, you have two choices: either make the best of it or wallow in your misery and regret. The consequences of blaming yourself for your problems can be severe. It depletes your mental strength, which is essential for peak performance. Also, it could lead to you becoming trapped in an unhealthy cycle of depression.

Sadness, most times, are normal and healthy feeling. It is okay to honor what you've lost by grieving a little. But allowing yourself to feel sad for some time is essential to healing. On the other hand, self-pity is an entirely different matter beyond a healthy sense of sadness. It gives off a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness whenever you feel sorry for yourself. You may begin to believe that life will never be the same again. And you can conclude that no one can make you feel better. You can only hurt yourself by thinking in this manner.

Because of this, self-pity causes an undesirable chain reaction. You'll believe that any attempt to improve your life is futile and give up on making any changes. Therefore, you won't do anything and will be stranded in the dark. 

Sitting there and not doing anything productive with your time and energy is easy when you're having a pity party. Spending time debating why possible solutions won't work isn't the best use of your time. You'll also probably find yourself whining about the unfairness of your situation in an attempt to entice others to your pity party. Even though your whining gets you sympathy for a short time, it will have a negative impact on your social life in the longer term.

Complimenting those around you is not the best way to build a strong social network. After all, hardly anyone says, What they truly admire about you is that you feel sorry for yourself. You'll be more likely to resort to self-pity as this cause you to repel people. 

What Are the Causes of Self-Pity?

In many cases, there isn't a single cause for self-pity but rather several things that can contribute to it. The things that are attributed to self-pity, which often develops into self-hatred, include:

Abusive parenting.

Intrusive negative thoughts.

Lack of confidence.

Perfectionism.

Rejecting help from others (isolation).

Self-inflicted shame.

Traumatic experiences.

In light of these findings, we might conclude that feeling sorry for yourself is often not a choice but a reflexive reaction you develop in early life.

Symptoms That Show You Feel Sorry for Yourself

When you're feeling sorry for yourself, you're more likely to complain. There are occasions when you have to complain out loud to others, but it's more likely that you'll be grumbling to yourself.

Complaining, in my opinion, can lead to increased anxiety, despair, and stress. We can infer that complaining harms our mental health since it causes us to dwell on the unpleasant aspects of the world when we do so.

It's easier said than done to change our mindset and quit complaining when we're stressed. Negative thinking is difficult to break once we get into the habit.

Stopping yourself from feeling sorry for yourself isn't easy. In reality, it's a lot more complicated than I thought. To transform how we think and act necessitates information as well as self-control. It's more than just a matter of how you frame your thoughts. Over time I've learned that feeling sorry for oneself requires much effort.

Ways To Stop Self-Pity

Everyone distinctly experiences self-pity. As it turns out, there isn't a single method that can completely stop this. Here are some ideas on how you might make positive changes in your life and break the habit of blaming yourself.

The Power of Gratitude:

Whatever your current condition, someone else is going through a worse one. Yes, it's depressing to imagine someone else's plight, but instead of giving in to your pity party, ask yourself a crucial question first. Surely, I'm not the only one going through this.

By doing so, you'll be able to observe things from a different angle if you allow yourself to be open-minded. As a result, you're no longer solely focused on your miserable circumstances. Next, think about three things for which you are thankful. Some things you may take for granted in your everyday life, some which are vital to your survival if you are to live.

The list doesn't have to be anything so enormous. For example, having a roof over your head is something to be grateful for. Not everyone even has that basic necessity. You can eat three basic meals daily and access safe drinking water daily. Things like this may also make you happy, end