The Self-Talk Solution: The Proven Concept Of Breaking Free From Intense Negative Thoughts To Never Feel Weak Again

By Stuart Wallace

Are you worried you will never be happy again? 

 

Do you wish you could quiet the voice in your head that makes you feel like you are a failure and there is no hope? 

 

Or do you want to strengthen the positive voice in your head, that helps you find happiness and achieve your greatest potential?

 

If you answered yes to at least one of the questions above, this guide is specifically written for you.

 

While there are several books written about self-talk, this guide provides tangible strategies based on psychological research that you can use immediately to both change negative self-talk to positive self-talk and turn it into action.

 

Did you know that negative self-talk is a habit that can be changed? 

 

Just like getting into the habit of brushing your teeth as a child, negative self-talk is a habit that can be changed and you can make the change now!

 

In 2014, Ethan Kross wrote about the power of self-talk as a regulatory mechanism in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology – it affects what we do, whether we realize it or not – and the way we use self-talk matters. 

 

As a regulatory mechanism, self-talk guides you in times of need, and it also acts as your inner critic. But sometimes your inner critic can guide you into unnecessary negative thoughts. 

 

His work, among others' shared in this guide, provides strategies and facts based on scientific evidence that help you to affect and improve the way you use self-talk.

 

In this guide you'll discover:

• The reasons why negative self-talk is stopping you from finding happiness and how positive self-talk can save you!
• Why you feel drained of energy and helpless (and how you can fix this in no time at all!)
• What the absolute key is to quieting the voice of negative self-talk
• A complete picture of how self-talk affects you - finding long term solutions and not just a "band-aid" to fix the problem
• The best secret - and simple - tricks you can use to strengthen the positive self-talk voice 
• How to improve both your life and your relationships, without spending a fortune on therapy
• The 14 key suggestions for how to take self-talk to the next level by turning positive self-talk into action!

 

…and much, much more! 

 

By relying on the most up-to-date psychological studies and findings, this guide provides the background information and tangible tools to understand the power of self-talk. 

 

You will learn how to eliminate negative self-talk and welcome positive self-talk, freeing you to do the things you've always wanted to do. 

 

If you finally want to understand how self-talk is hurting you, and, how you can change it to improve your life, click "Add to Cart" now! Why wait another day?

 

• Language: English
• Publisher: M & M Limitless Online Inc.
• Release date: Jul 30, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393893288

Book preview

Chapter 1: Positive Self-Talk, The Negative Thought Eliminator

Positive self-talk is the core of happiness and high self-esteem. But negative self-talk is just the opposite. The purpose of positive self-talk is to regulate your inner dialogue to eliminate negative, self-defeating beliefs and unlock your true potential as a human being.

Negative self-talk is something that most people are naturally prone to due to a combination of environmental and genetic factors. It is basically a habit that can have extremely toxic effects on your overall attitude and life. Changing your self-talk is imperative for you to gain happiness and well-being.

First, learn about the problem and what it does to you, in order to gain motivation to eliminate negative thinking from your brain. The key to fixing any problem is understanding it thoroughly. Only then can you see the need to change and go about making those changes.

What Is Negative Self-Talk?

You know that narrative that runs in your head? You can’t do this, so why are you even trying? They must think I’m such an idiot. She would never go out with me. I need to get out of here because I’m way out of my element. Scolding yourself, making self-defeating statements to yourself, or telling yourself that life sucks are all examples of bad narrative.

That is negative self-talk in a nutshell.

Your self-talk is simply the way you talk to yourself inside of your head. The voice in your head that whispers wisdom can also whisper some pretty self-limiting and discouraging things. The voice may imitate your abusive parent, or your deepest insecurities, or your most denigrating boss, coach, or teacher.

The thing most people don’t realize is that the self-talk you play in your own mind is taught, starting with your role models and parental figures in childhood [1]. It can also be altered in time by the people you surround yourself with and the experiences you go through in life. It is a fluid thing that changes with exposure to different environmental factors.

Therefore, self-talk can certainly be restructured to be more positive. Through repeated models in your environment, you learned how to think about yourself and life in a negative way. Now you can reframe that thinking in a more positive form with new models.

You might wonder why you should bother doing this. Well, the real question is, Why shouldn’t you? Negative self-talk has been found to be the number one aggravator of issues like depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and fear [2]. It has been found to create significant mental stress, which in turn is harmful to your physical health and impairing for your life performance [2]. Often, negative self-talk is comprised of several cognitive distortions, or improper ways of thinking that make life seem darker than it really is [2]. In other words, the way you are thinking is making you feel awful and it also may be causing or exacerbating any mental illnesses you may have.

This does not mean that you are to blame for your own suffering. You learned negative self-talk, and at the present moment, it is all you know. However, there is a fantastic solution that you can do yourself or with the help of a coach or therapist, so why not do it? By changing negative self-talk, you can start to correct the thinking patterns, or cognitive distortions, that underlie your problems.

Self-talk is how your mind harnesses language to regulate your behavior [3]. Think of how you might tell yourself, Take a left up here as you drive. Your arm follows that direction and turns the steering wheel left. When you are under social stress, such as at a job interview, that self-talk tells you what to do and say to win the job. Really, self-talk is quite necessary for your daily functioning.

Thus, it follows that negative self-talk instructs you to act negatively, which can have some detrimental effects on your overall life. Meanwhile, more positive self-talk has the opposite, and more desirable, effect.

We all have an inner critic that upholds us to higher standards. This critic is not always bad, provided that you look for solutions to your subpar work as opposed to beating yourself up mentally [3]. It is also not realistic to expect to be chipper and happy all of the time. Sometimes, dark moods and ugly thoughts will cloud your mind, obliterating the sunshine and rainbows. However, you don’t need to live in a storm all of the time. Learning to change your negative self-talk can make you feel happier and more proactive, which in turn can exponentially improve your quality of life.

What Are The Causes Of Negative Self-Talk?

Negative self-talk has been recognized as a major factor in poor sports performance and low self-esteem since the 1990s, with some studies highlighting its significance even earlier. A focus of cognitive behavioral therapy, most psychologists and therapists understand that self-talk is critical your overall mental health and outlook on life.

However, the exact causes of negative self-talk are not as clear. There are many studies that have attempted to unlock the true causes. They have shed some light on possible reasons that people may engage in negative self-talk.

The first and foremost currently understood idea is that self-talk is taught through environment. The influences that shape your mind when you are young, ranging from parents to school staff, can certainly affect the way you talk to yourself as you get older [4]. For instance, in a study of fifth-graders, many children in private school who received more praise and positive statements from their teachers, peers, and siblings had much higher self-esteem and higher rates of positive self-talk habits compared to public school students [4].

This study does not mean that you must go to a private school as a child to develop positive self-talk. Rather, it illustrates the effect that positive statements and praise can have on children and their self-esteem and self-talk. Children in private schools happen to receive more positive statements and praise, but a public school student who receives lots of encouragement can also develop high self-esteem and positive self-talk habits. It all starts in childhood.

Parents and teachers shape your mind when you are young; you look to them to model how the world is and how you should act [5]. If you