Self Talk: How to Train Your Brain to Turn Negative Thinking into Positive Thinking & Practice Self Love: Self Talk, #1

By Aston Sanderson

80% of the average person's inner mental chatter is negative. But everyone has the power to change theirs.

Want to achieve your goals, be more content with yourself, and live your best life? Don't let negative thinking hold you back.

Changing how you talk to yourself in your thoughts — with self love, positive thinking and constructive feedback — is the most effective way to change your approach to your exercise routine, diet, relationships, work and life.

Read this book to learn how to harness your negative thinking, train your brain for constructive and positive thinking, and make your negative thoughts and positive thoughts work toward your goals.
 

After reading this book you will know how to:

• Apply better mental strategies and tricks to daily life through changing negative thinking into positive thinking


• Use simple exercises to expand your thinking


• Declutter your mind of unproductive thoughts


• Finally achieve the things you couldn't motivate yourself to do before as you learn to train your brain

Buy "Self Talk" today and learn how to train your brain to be your biggest ally.

• Approach your relationships to others and yourself with better understanding with self love


• Stop racing thoughts


• Stop worrying or worry less


• Gain distance and necessary perspective from your thoughts

• Language: English
• Publisher: Aston Sanderson
• Release date: Mar 29, 2017
• ISBN: 9781545022702

Book preview

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INTRODUCTION

Do you sometimes feel like your thoughts are racing, or you are your own worst critic? These feelings are quite common. Even if you don’t feel this way, though, chances are: You talk to yourself. We all do.

Talking to yourself is what we refer to as self talk. It is the ingrained patterns of thoughts that we run through our head, often unconsciously, day in and day out. It is the way we talk to ourselves about ourselves. For most of us, it’s a habit we’ve probably never consciously thought about before.

In this book, we’ll cover everything you need to know about self talk to use it to your advantage, instead of letting it control you — often unconsciously. Self talk has incredible impact on your self confidence, your progress toward your goals, your relationships, and the overall way you live your life.

As author Annie Dillard said, The way you live your days is the way you live your life.

After you read this book, you’ll have concrete strategies (and exercises at the end of each chapter) to make your self talk your own greatest ally in living your best life possible.

This quick-read will help you turn negative self talk into constructive, positive self talk. You may find this book short, but that is the point. I don’t like reading books with a lot of filler, and I have made this one as short as possible while still getting my points across. I like a book that packs punch, and I want you to get started with healthy self talk as soon as possible.

I sincerely hope you enjoy the process we’ll be embarking on in these pages. Though it may be tough at times, know that the hard work will be worth it.

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WHAT IS SELF TALK?

In this chapter, we’ll discuss just what exactly self talk refers to, so we’re all on the same page as we begin our journey.

Self talk is your internal monologue. It is the thoughts that go through your head on a daily basis. Usually, it is how you talk to yourself about yourself.

You may have never thought about your self talk before, or you may be aware of it. Either way, we’re going to be discussing how you can harness your self talk for your own benefit.

The thing about self talk is that we all have it. While writing this book, I can’t even count how many times I’ve talked to myself about it. I’ve said things like, I didn’t get enough writing done today, or I should have started working earlier today. I’m sure you have a lot of similar thoughts when you are trying to complete a large project. Together, we’ll learn how to better deal with these thoughts.

So, let’s investigate: What is self talk?

Self Talk is Often Judgmental

Is your self talk mainly negative, or mainly positive? There’s also the option of neutral thoughts. You have probably heard of negative thinking and positive thinking, but maybe not neutral thinking.

Let’s look at examples of all three:

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Positive self talk:

I am a good person

My body is beautiful

I crushed it during my work presentation today

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Negative self talk:

I am not good enough

I really need to lose 5 pounds

I won’t do well during my presentation tomorrow

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Neutral self talk:

I am a human

I weigh 150 pounds

I have spent 2 hours preparing for my presentation tomorrow

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The neutral thinking examples probably feel a bit strange. They are simply facts, and two of them are quantifiable, meaning they are able to be measured by numbers.

When we talk to ourselves, we most often use judgmental self talk, whether we are judging ourselves positively or negatively. Our brain already knows facts, it doesn’t need to state them aloud to itself. Our brain is meant for processing those facts. When we talk to ourselves, we are usually working through how we feel about something, whether that is our weight, our performance at work, or our general sense of self-worth.

Can you think of any things you’ve said to yourself about yourself recently?

In the next section, we’ll look at how self talk shapes our lives.

Self Talk is the Story We Tell Ourselves

As a professional storyteller, I am especially invested in the power narratives hold over humans.

Storytelling is one of the most basic human needs, I believe. It is how we communicate with each other, how we pass down important culture, impart life lessons, and understand the world. It’s how we make sense of our lives, which are often full of chaos, coincidence, and unpredictability.

We are all the main characters of our own stories. You are the leading woman (or man) of your life story. No matter the position you find yourself in today, you are probably creating stories to shape the past, your ideas about the future, and even your present self.

For example, maybe you tell yourself a story about graduating from a college that didn’t have

Reviews for Self Talk

[SezI · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is the book that finally made a difference for me. I have read possibly 50+ books to help with personal growth and development, all have great strategies, but the second motivation is gone, all you are left with us your own internal dialogue... and if that voice is not pushing you, then you don't go anywhere at all despite all the best advice you have stored in your brain. Thank you for writing this no-guff, no-filler, most helpful book. I've gotten over the hump, and it was huge!

[G Siva Perumal · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

This book is realistic and has a friendly tone to it. The most valuable learning for me is that it is okay to have negative feelings. It is about how we look at it and how we can turn that into constructive self talk and how to reduce the impact the negativity has on us.