Sis Keep Your Head Up, It Gets Better

By MARY MAGDALENE ROBINSON

This book is dedicated to every woman that has been a victim of loving the wrong man. It is a testament that even though you have endured the most devastatingly painful hurt that heartbreak can cause or maybe you are still in a relationship that is going nowhere it is time to focus on you and being happy Sis, you can survive and come out better

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mary Robinson
• Release date: May 13, 2022
• ISBN: 9781087966328

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Introduction:

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his book is a dedication to every woman that has been a victim of loving the wrong man. It is a testament that even though you have endured the most devastatingly painful hurt that a  heartbreak can cause or maybe you are still in a relationship that is going nowhere it is time to focus on you and being happy Sis, you can survive and you came out better than before and that the pain has Re-birth a fire in you and that you will no longer be a victim. Yes you have been taken for granted and you felt as though your voice was not heard, you felt as though you had no-one in your corner Sis, you are not alone and you don not have to stay where you are there is happiness at the end of what may seem like a road that just keeps going nowhere Sis, it will get better I can speak as someone who went through such heartbreak to healing it will happen never give up God is there every step of way. In this book you will get guidance on how to break away loving the wrong man this book will help you to value the wonderful woman that you are because it is a vicious cycle that we put our selves through this book will so show you the signs that will help you to learn what to look out for when you meet someone. You can look out for pitfalls & tricks so that you will not fall in its trap but instead you will become a  victor you have the power use it because something brand new is burning in you and it will not be extinguished let that fire consume you and lead you to the best that life has to offer you!

Chapter One

Stop Looking for a Hero

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ontrary to some beliefs there are no superheroes and no one man can come into your life and be Clark Kent. It is only fictionally visible for the movies. There are some wonderful men in this world: Godly men who had the super being in them and they can come into your life and add some much needed love and rest from all the drama that life can sometimes throw at us. I am not writing this book to trash or bash any man. No, far from it! I am only here to encourage and help my sisters know their worth. The only superhero that can save the day is God almighty and His wonderful Son, Jesus. When you are looking for a potential mate, let's keep in mind always what the scripture says about husbands. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it. So, we see here the depth of how a Godly man should love his wife. If you are in a relationship and you don’t have someone who loves you like that; sis, you are in big trouble. There was a song back in 1966 Percy Sledge sang, and the lyrics are strong and powerful. Here are a few of the words to his song:

When a man loves a woman

Can't keep his mind on nothin' else

He’ll trade the world

For the good thing he's found

If she is bad, he can't see it

She can do no wrong

Turn his back on his best friend

If he put her down

When a man loves a woman

Spend his very last dime

Trying to hold on to what he needs

He'd give up all his comfort

Sleep out in the rain

If she said that's the way it ought to be

Well, this man loves you, woman

I gave you everything that I had

Trying to hold on to your precious love

Baby, please don’t treat me bad

Now that is what a man should be feeling for the woman that he loves. Love is meant to be celebrated and cherished. Sisters are to be loved and cherished. So many times we as women are the ones who are nurturing them and doing things to make sure they know that we adore and love them but usually it’s for the wrong man; it’s the right plan with the wrong man. We must learn to evaluate and make them accountable and stop making excuses for their behavior and trying to change them because we cannot change someone else’s behavior. The truth of the matter is that we can change our behavior and our mindset. Yes, sister, it has to start with you taking a heart to heart look at yourself, and sometimes it’s not pretty but we must do that if we are to move forward and stop adopting/practicing bad choices and bad decision making. A lot of times, we must face the woman in the mirror and tell her that she is held accountable and she is to remember that she is in charge and that she is the one who holds the power, yes I said power because Sis you do have the ability to change your life and make things better. There are 12 things that you can do to make better decisions:

1. Try not to overthink

2. Take care of yourself

3. Remove yourself from the situation

4. Don't shy away from your mistakes

5. Examine the opposite of your decision

6. Weigh the pros and cons of your decisions

7. Consider all the Possibilities of your decisions

8. Manage your emotions

9. Weigh the short- and long-term consequences of your decisions

10. Stay true to your values

11. Don't let stress get the better of you

12. Give yourself some time (if possible).

So, if we incorporate this point into our everyday lives; it can help us make better choices.

Let’s look at some factors. The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love are defined as follows: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of service, and Physical touch. Let’s look at each one individually.

1. Words of Affirmation are any spoken or written words that confirm, support, uplift, and positively empathize with another person. When you know your value, these words only support what your thought process is and how you apply these words to your daily life. You should speak these words throughout your life daily because they only support and encourage you and uplift you so you will feel better about yourself. Remember sometimes you are your own personal champion. Here are some examples of Words of Affirmation: "I just want to let you know how proud of you I am. You work really hard for us, and even when things may feel tough, I just want you to know how appreciative I am. I feel so lucky to have you. I am here if you need me and I want to help and support you in any way I can." Sis, if he is not making you feel this way, then you are cheating yourself out of what you truly deserve. Also, here are some more phrases that we should adopt in our lives as individuals. Your presence makes me happy. I love it when you hold my hand. Watching you take care of me and the kids and seeing you go after what you want is sexy. I am so grateful that we met. You are an amazing partner, thank you for choosing me every single day. And last but not least; you are my dream woman. Now, doesn’t that just make your heart melt when he says things like that? Sis, never compromise with your heart for it beats for you every single day of your life, and it deserves the best from you.

II. Quality Time centers on togetherness. It's all about expressing your love and affection with your undivided attention. They feel important, loved, and special—like you were intentional in setting aside time just for them. Everyone needs that one-on-one time with that person they love, so it is all about balance. Therefore, you must have a system set up where you put it on a regular schedule, yes a schedule to date in your relationship. We make schedules for everything else why not make for the person you love? Be intentional meaning he should be making you a priority and not an