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    Is Self Love Selfish? Maybe, But Don’t Let That Stop You

    by Scott Stabile Feb 12, 2019 5 minutes
    There is an undeniable selfishness to self-love… but nonetheless it is good, right and necessary to love yourself passionately by Scott Stabile. Photograph of heart painted on a wall by Jon Tyson
    Photograph by Jon Tyson

    There is an undeniable selfishness to self-love… but nonetheless it is good, right and necessary to love yourself passionately.

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    I write and talk about love all the time. Love this, love that, love everyone, love love love. It can get annoying. I believe love is the base note for all good things in our lives and world, and self-love is the natural, and most transformative, place to start. It’s not that we can’t love others if we don’t love ourselves. That’s a myth. Of course we can, and do, every day. It’s just that we become better at loving in general when we give love to ourselves first — generously and often. 

    What is self-love? Simply, it is the act of loving ourselves, through our thoughts, words and actions. Easier said than done, right? At least it is for me. Worth the effort, though. I promise.

    One of the questions I get asked the most at my workshops and on my social media Q&As

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