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Making Sense and Finding Meaning in Broken Relationships

Making Sense and Finding Meaning in Broken Relationships, by Venus Castleberg. Photograph of roses in a cup by Tanalee Youngblood
Photograph by Tanalee Youngblood

Estimated reading time: 8 minutes

Getting over the fantasies, the drama, trauma and self sabotage to have truly fulfilling relationships.

Endlessly searching for love with all its nuances has been the story of my life. From a very young age into much of my adult life, I was driven by a seemingly insatiable need to understand and to find love, believing and hoping that true love that satisfies had to exist somewhere. The desperation of wanting to find love coupled with the belief that somewhere on this planet of 8 billion people surely ‘the one’ existed, which led me down a continuous cycle of searching for love (often in all the wrong places) finding it, losing it, suffering through the drama and trauma only to rally again and jump back in. 

Story of my life: Finding love, losing love, falling in love to fall out of love, in then out, out then back

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