Delicate Strength

By K. Hill

Many today are faced with day to day challenging times in life, rather it be from problems that stem from being in a relationship, marriage, financial instability, unemployment or any other kind of challenge in life, that we as humans tend to be faced with on a day to day basis. The key is how well do we handle ourselves in the face of adversity, shall tribulation and triumph arise in our lives. Do we let our self beings go, or let these obstacles that seem to get in our way get the best of us, or do we let these obstacles strengthen us, and help us to realize, that above all of these challenges ,that may come about in our life, we do have a purpose in life. This self help strengthening book gives you insight, and understanding, on what path to take, when hard to handle difficult times arise, in our life. It will inspire you, as well as to give you guidance , and strengthen you, and help you to understand how to appreciate, the blessings of everyday life, even through time of negativity. It gives you step by step guidance, on how to get through those negative times, not so great moments that may come about in life. The question is; Do we break down or continuing on strong, and keep on going? or let the negative transpire us? Well, this tell all step by step guide, will give you guidance through experience of others, and that of my own, and will inspire you, and help you get through troubled times, and also help you to understand, what it takes along with what is needed, to make it in todays world, when we are faced with troubled and adverse times, but only if one stands strong through it, is what matters, that you are proven to cultivate Delicate Strength.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Nov 9, 2012
• ISBN: 9781465346353

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Copyright © 2012 by K. Hill.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2011913884

ISBN:   Hardcover   978-1-4653-4634-6

             Softcover    978-1-4653-4633-9

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgments And Thank Yous

Chapter 1:   Self-Expectations

Chapter 2:   True Love

Chapter 3:   Loyalty

Chapter 4:   Disappointments

Chapter 5:   Word To Stand On

Chapter 6:   Love Me Or Leave Me (Love Is Respect)

Chapter 7:   Invite: Invitations

Chapter 8:   Life’s Partner

Chapter 9:   Lost World

Chapter 10:   True Soul

Chapter 11:   Time Reveals All (Truth)

Chapter 12:   Life’s Opportunity

Chapter 13:   Claim To Fame

Chapter 14:   Cry Now

Chapter 15:   I Got My Soul

Chapter 16:   Self-Respect

Chapter 17:   God’s Creation Of Life’s Beautiful Sunshine

Chapter 18:   To Live Is To Love

Chapter 19:   Happiness

Chapter 20:   Delicate Strength

This book is dedicated to all those who have gone through trial and triumph in life and who have possessed the strength as well as the courage and will to make it through any obstacle in their life.

Strength from within is everything.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS AND THANK YOUS

I want to give thanks to the one above all "God’’ for giving me the strength and will to stand strong and continue to move forward in my life, even through times of tribulation, for I am who I am today because of overcoming all of the obstacles that were put in front of me, and I thank God for that. I want to give thanks to my family: most of all to the blessings of my mother, for she has always been a strong woman, and has always been by my side, to help guide me through my times of trial in life, and has been the glue that holds our family together, I love you, and to my father you have come a long ways and I pray that you continue on to the right path, and also a special thanks to my beautiful sisters and wonderful brother as well as to the blessings of my beautiful nieces and nephews – I love you to infinity.

CHAPTER 1

SELF-EXPECTATIONS

There are a lot of expectations in life that we would like for ourselves and others to meet, but the truth of the matter is that it does not happen all the time in life, and we as people sometimes tend to be disappointed in ourselves and others for not living up to that expectation and for allowing ourselves to feel such a downfall inside. But is that not life? Well, here is a story of what my expectations used to be in life before I took a hard fall down and realized what the concept and meaning was behind being the person having goals and expecting to achieve everything one wants to accomplish in life. Well, before I took a tumble down the real road in life, I used to think and have the belief that who and what a person portrayed themselves to be were who they truly were at heart and nothing less, and I expected them to be that person and live up to that personality—until I realized that certain situations in life do arise. And when that happens, at the point, we truly get to know ourselves and others and what to expect. This golden statement holds to be true: you never really get to know the true person of the heart until you are at your worst or are put into an uncomfortable situation or a bad situation in life and the true person of the heart is shown. And up until that point in your life, everything you once expected this person to be and everything that this person claimed to be has shattered you. Meaning, that this person looks different to you now because of that. Personally, that has happened to me in my life. You just do not find out who a person truly is until they’re at a difficult point in their life or in a bad situation and at their worst, which can be very disappointing and very unexpected. And from then on, we begin to look at everything that this person does or everything that this person is about differently. Is it because of that one mistake? If so, how can that one mistake change how we view others? The answer is no, that one mistake does not change how we once viewed another—it was the whole situation at hand, how the person changed altogether because of the situation that they briefly went through and how they handled what was supposed to be a valued friendship. The conclusion, or what it boils down to, is that this person’s actions and attitude defined who they already were in the beginning.

As a person, you only show people what you want them to see and nothing else. So I say that it is very important to be who you really are at heart, your true person, all the time, because I do not think that it is worth letting anyone believe anything less than who you truly are, because you can never fake it. The truth will always come to light, either now or later. In either case, it will shine through, so it is always best to be sincere at heart with yourself and with others and put forth the true you in the beginning so that you are truly loved and accepted for who you truly are on the inside. At a point in time in a person’s life, sometimes certain situations arise and the true person at heart is tested, given a situation that the person seemed to have put himself in. A lot of times, it is always the bad times that test who you really are as a person. Whether it is for the better or for the worse, it is always best to bring the true person at heart, because I would not expect anything less from myself or from anyone else but to be who I am.

In a relationship, it is also best to be your true self, based on your expectations of the relationship and where you plan to go with it, along with the foundation in which you plan to stand on with your partner in the relationship; it really does matter. Are you in it for the long-term or for the short-term? Where are you at now in your relationship? Are you with someone that you see yourself with in the future, depending on the way things are going for you right now? Those are obvious questions that should be asked, and it would be best to ask them sooner rather than later, before the true person at heart comes to play.

A friend of mine asked those same questions to a guy that she just recently met, and she thought that he answered honestly and true to his heart, but that was simply not the case, so she found out in the end. My friend Sage had just met a very handsome and good-looking guy who went by the name Phil. Now, Sage and Phil soon got into a relationship, and the relationship went well—everything was as Phil said it would be. He did everything for her, and he put his best foot forward in the relationship from the very beginning. She decided to take their relationship to the next level by moving in with him. He cooked breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and things could not have been better for the two. Phil even cleaned up the house daily. Things were indeed beautiful and, no doubt, perfect, until the day that Sage went to him and told him that she was now pregnant. From there, everything that Phil ever was to Sage ended. The good man stopped being the good man and went to being the disappointing man.

So you see, Phil did not bring his true self to the table—he brought someone else. Sage just did not know that because from the beginning, she expected him to be who he said he was, the person he brought up front to the relationship, but sadly, that was not the case. And unfortunately, a heart was broken because he chose to be dishonest and not bring his true self to the relationship, and in turn, my dear friend Sage had to pay the price.

The grand quote of life: honesty is always the best policy, as well as the truth always sets one free. So always be true to who you are, and the rest will already be said and done.

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