Redefining and Reclaiming Selfish | Exploring Selfishness as Self Love
Giving yourself permission to be selfish is a vital act of self-love and self-care
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“But isn’t that selfish?!?!” a caller on my Hay House Radio show exclaimed in horror when I suggested that she make herself a priority. “Yes,” I said, “Exactly!”
It was a woah-moment. The mere mention of encouraging her to give herself permission to honor her wants, needs and desires to be met, let alone become non-negotiables, was nothing short of earth-shattering.
I experience this with my clients all the time. Here’s where we get tripped up: most of us relate to selfish and selfless as being mutually exclusive. But they’re not.
Selfish is simply another way we can relate to self-care and self-love.
It is strengthening the relationship you have with yourself so you really can choose to say to you, in service of being more available to those you love. I want to be clear that when I’m talking about selfish — or self-care or self-love — it’s not at the expense of others. It’s always a both/and.
