The Path Way That Leads to Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right: After Haven't Suffered Setbacks from Many Passed Relationships, Now Is the Time to Find That Right Person.

By Rev. Gabriel B. Webs

The book is about a lot of things. precisely, it centers around what do you do when your heart is broken in a relationship, and how can you come back to prepare yourself and find that right person for your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 11, 2021
• ISBN: 9781664225664

Rev. Gabriel B. Webs

I was born and raised In a country in west Africa call Liberia. I am the Assistant pastor of the New Covenant Outreach Ministries in Liberia. I am presently residing in the United States of America, and by the grace of God I happen to be one of the pastors of Christ Assembly Lutheran Church 27 Hudson Street Staten Island New. I am married to a beauty woman of God Kormassah Jallah Webs, and we are blessed with three biological children so many spiritual children.

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INTRODUCTION

L IFE IS FULL OF UPS and downs when it comes to relationships. One of the things I have come to realize is that at times we make decision based on what we see physically, that is the person physical appearance which at times can be deceptive. In the process of looking at the person’s physical appearance, it kills our sense of reasoning, and if beauty covers our sense of reasoning, it will become difficult for us to make wise choices when it comes to relationship.

You may have tried every other color or nationality when it comes to relationship, and you found out that you stay got problem. The first thing that we need to take care of before making a move when it comes to love relationship, it’s ourselves. That will include your patience, your forgiveness, your pride, your physical fight, your anger, respect for yourself, commitment to self, how to handle misunderstanding and more. If we do not have control over these things, it is certain that we are not fully ready or prepared for any love relationship.

That is the reason for which God through his infinite wisdom dealing with the finite mind like me to pen down these few words to teach the reader of this book all that He God has placed in my heart to express. You may not see me physically to talk to me or explain to me about what you are going through, I already know, and that is the reason why I am reaching to you instead of you reaching out to me to tell me all that you must have gone through.

Reading this book with a clear mind and an opened spirit will help you greatly. Fixing your life depends on no one else but you. Putting everything you may have gone through in the past behind and focusing on what you can do now is the most important thing to do. Holding on to your past when it comes to relationships that hurt you will not help you in any way, but will bring you down more and more. Your tears will not help; if he is gone, he is gone or if she is gone, she is gone. Stop wasting your time crying for someone who does not care about you.

Life is not yet over I know at times it can be it can be hard to understand yourself when you are in love with someone, and you sacrifice a lot, and at the end you become the victim. This book was written for you; just allow the spirit that is driving this book to drive you, and you will reach your destiny when it comes to love relationship. I am so tired of seeing people suffer when it comes to love relationships, sometimes you are in it but there is no respect from your partner or no concern about your feelings. Sometimes you cried and cried and cried, but your tears meant nothing to the person that caused you all the tears. It is about time you put a stop to it and fix you. You are too beautiful or handsome to be pushed around by some boy or a girl. Fixing you doesn’t mean you will be insolent and disrespectful, no it doesn’t mean that, but putting some value on your life that you deserve, and that starts with you. So follow me as we go through this journey of a life changing experience and a new way of life for your growth and development in building yourself up to a lasting love relationship.

PREPARATION OF SINGLEHOOD AND SEARCHING

B EING SINGLE IS THE BEST time to be careful. It is the best time for you to think before making any decisions for your life when it comes to relationships. Being single is called preparation time. It is the time to use your five senses very well because, in the process of being single, you are not obligated to anybody. Open your eyes very well, process your thoughts before you let them out. Ask a lot of questions, talk about things you do not understand if you find somebody along the pathway of relationship. The first thing you need to make the person understand when he or she is coming around you during the process of your friendship with whoever you want to fall in love with, it’s to know who you are, as well as your importance. The thing that shows your importance is the way you present yourself to whoever you will come across in life when it comes to a love relationship.

If in the process of seeing each other and there are certain things you are not satisfied with being friends with this person, the best thing to do is to express it and let the person know how you feel. For example, the person lies and cheats as well, and you know you do not like what the person is doing and the person full of secrets, you have to talk about it and express yourself when it comes to things like that. Sometimes the person never hides his or her negative behavior, and you know that you are going through difficult times in the relationship, but you still want to make the decision to stay in the relationship with the intention that the person will change. You must think again and again. The first thing you need to realize is, the person that will change shows actions to change his or her ways. That will give you the encouragement to say I will be there because he or she is fighting to change.

When the person is caught in a wrong act such as cheating on you with another woman or another man, the person does not have remorse but careless about his or her actions, and at the end the person tells you by saying if you want to leave me you can leave and I don’t care. The first thing that should come to your mind is how many more people is he or she seeing out there? Like I said being single is the best time to use your five senses very well because they were given to you for better use, so when the time comes to use them please do not close your eyes, your ears, your mouth, your nose, and your feelings. Do not close either of them, because they will be the ones that you will need in order to know what this person in your life is made of, and what are his or her intentions being in your life.

I have heard people saying most of the time that love is blind, that is a theory that I refuse to believe, because if love is blind, there will be nothing about the human anatomy that will get you attracted to him or her. Humans are species of highly intelligent primates. By this I think everyone gets attracted to another person because what he or she has seen in that person. Have you heard love at first sight, so love is not blind we are the ones that ignore the facts about love. People fall in love for so many different reasons, if that is the case, why do we say love is blind? There is something that causes love eyes to be opened and that thing is the structure of the human body that causes one to fall in love. That is the reason while your interest should not be built on physical appearances because they have the ability to fail and be deceptive.

There is another word called pulchritude which means physical beauty especially for a woman by definition, and there is a saying that says beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. That means, love has eyes to see. Sometimes you see a very beautiful woman in love with a very insolent man, there is something about that person that is so attractive that attracted that woman to him, or a very handsome guy is in love with a very jealous and hard to deal with woman, In spite of what the person is, there is something inside of that person that caused the next person to fall in love with that person who has another side of his or her life. At times they fight in the streets and after sometimes or the next day, he or she will come begging and saying it was a mistake I don’t know what came over me it was the devil, and then the person will accept and they will be at peace. And then the next day or after two or three days the same thing will happen again, he or she will come up to say I love you. Love is not blind love has eyes to see, we are the ones at times that make love to look blind for which we will not see the wrong that people do to us continually.

Whoever loves you will try in every way possible to change from every negative behavior that will cause a serious trouble for his or her relationship. Whoever treats another person like that continuously has total control over you and the relationship. Relationship is not about one person it should be about the both people involved. And then after all the wrong things that he or she has said and done, he or she will come and act like he or she is apologizing for the wrong that was done to make his or her ground strong for few days and also promise that it will not happen again, and that was not the first, second nor third time and you know it. The next person will accept. It is good to forgive but not forgiving repeated action. That is the reason I told you from the beginning of this book that during the meeting period, you need to tell the person who you are dating who you really are and make the person to know your importance. Once the person understands who you are to him or her, that person will never take you for granted. Your life is very important, and you only have one life that will never come back when you are gone.

So please be careful about how you express and expose your life to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with because it is very important. You must be careful about how you make the choice of a lifetime’s partner. You are not in a rush to get married. You have not been leftover or left out, except you feel that way. The Bible said in the book of (Proverbs 23:7) and I quote For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee Unquote, Sometimes it is good for you to ask around, make sure you have some basic information about that person in all the communities he or she has lived. Who is he or who is she? What are some of his or her behaviors? Is he or she rude or bossy? What are some contributions has he or she made in the communities he or she has lived? When I am talking about contribution I mean in terms of character. You need to be the best person to find out all you want to know about this person.

Do not be carried away by physical pulchritude (beauty). Be concerned about what is beyond that physical beauty, because physical beauty is deceptive. Look for intelligence, love, care, and self-disciplined person. Ask about his or her life when it comes to he or she interact with people especially when it comes to the opposite sex. This is so much important and you do not take it for joke. You must check in every way possible because this is your life. If you have been hurt before maybe not once neither twice, you will be the best person to take precautions except you like being hurt all the time. There are some people who have been hurt over five times but still, they are not careful, and you know you do not want to be that person that will be hurt all the time. Nobody wants that to happen to him or her all the time, that’s while you need to fix your mind to the direction you want your life to take, and you will find peace in your soul. No one will give you the peace you need except you create the atmosphere for it that is the only way you will experience peace, and only your actions will tell that you want