Before Tying the Knot: Who Am I and Who Are You: Things to Know Before Walking Down the Aisle

By Deven Jones

This book gives advice to those who are interested in getting married or who are currently engaged. It offers advice about some of the questions you need to know the answers to before you decide to make that major life-altering commitment called marriage. It gives insight into some of the things you should be aware of before marriage is even considered. This book provides guidance to help you decide if you are prepared for what lies ahead. Marriage can be a beautiful thing and this book can help you prepare for it.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Aug 16, 2019
• ISBN: 9781973671046

Deven Jones

Deven Jones is a firm believer in life being one of our best teachers. She has learned a lot from her own relationships and the relationships of others and wanted to share what she has learned with you. She is also the author of the book Getting Married and Staying That Way. She is a Registered Nurse with a passion for writing and has been inspired to help others with their relationship goals by giving advice through writing.she has learned with you. She is also the author of the book Getting Married and Staying That Way. She is a Registered Nurse with a passion for writing and has been inspired to help others with their relationship goals by giving advice through writing.

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ISBN: 978-1-9736-7103-9 (sc)

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2019910925

WestBow Press rev. date: 8/16/2019

CONTENTS

Acknowledgements

Introduction: Elements for a Healthy Relationship

1    Boost Your Confidence and Know Your Worth

2    You Are Responsible for Your Happiness

3    Know Your Deal Breakers

4    Are You Ready for Marriage?

5    Dive In

6    Common Interests and Views

7    Be an Open Book

8    Effective Communication

9    Managing Conflict

10    Meeting the Family

11    What’s Next

Conclusion

Notes

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Giving all honor to God; I would like to thank him for allowing me to share this message with you. God has given me the strength and the courage to complete this book so that someone’s life and relationship may be changed for the better. No matter what we face in life, God is there. I thank him for being my rock, my provider, my friend, my counselor, my mind regulator, and my comforter.

INTRODUCTION

Elements for a Healthy Relationship

There are several elements that can help maintain a healthy relationship: communication, compromise, patience, respect, prayer, and a willingness to grow and change in a positive way. Communication is a must, as the lack thereof can destroy any relationship. Since a relationship is a two-way street between two individuals, compromise is necessary. You can’t always have things your way. There must be compromise, along with patience and respect. Your body language, along with what you say and how you say it, all show your level of respect for the other person. Another element is prayer. Including God in your relationship will benefit your relationship greatly. God knows you best, and he is the only one who can get someone to change for the better. As you and your significant other grow together, it is wise to incorporate prayer into your daily lives.

It is important to know who you are before you decide to be in a relationship with someone. Evaluate your self-confidence level and understand that your opinion and happiness matters. This will help you to avoid people who aim to de-value you or who have no problem disrespecting you. These types of people can’t always be avoided in life in general, but your confidence level can make it easier for you to co-exist with them. For example, it’s difficult to avoid