Become Confident and Self-Aware; Build Your Confidence And Stop Being a People Pleaser

By Lorins Sam

Pleasing others becomes problematic when you rely on their opinions and responses to make your decisions, thoughts, and actions. It becomes stressful and tiresome to please other people.


As a guide, it will guide you through effective steps and strategies you can use to deal with people-pleasing in order to improve your general wellbeing. The focus is on helping you realize that you are important and that no matter how much you may need to be good to others, that does not mean you neglect your own needs.


 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Sam Lorins
• Release date: Oct 20, 2021
• ISBN: 9791220858939

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Dedication

I dedicate this book, first to my family, and second to you, dear reader, because without readers, books are meaningless.

Contents

Introduction

You Shouldn't Try to Please Everyone

Knowing when not to volunteer is key to volunteering.

Taking Control of Your Decisions: How to Avoid Being Influenced by Others.

Handling Manipulation and Criticism.

Managing Impossible People.

Recognizing the situation and accepting it.

The Importance of Self-Protection.

Introduction

Cheerful people may not sound so bad. After all, what's wrong with being kind to people and trying to help or make them happy?

But making people happy generally goes beyond simple kindness. According to Erika Myers, an Oregon therapist, editing consists of changing words or behaviors based on someone else's needs or reactions.

Taking into account your assumptions of what people in your life need or want, you can do your best to give them what they want. In order to be liked, you spend time and energy on them.

Myers says this is how people-pleasing can cause problems. If you let others' desires override your own, Myers says that this can be detrimental to us as well as to our relationships.

Understanding the signs

Still not sure if you are a people-pleaser or really nice to others? Here are a few signs of people-pleasing.

You have a low opinion of yourself

People who satisfy people often suffer from low self-esteem and get their self-esteem from the approval of others.

I only deserve love when I give everything to someone else is a common perception associated with people-pleasing, says Myers.

Perhaps you believe people only appreciate you when you make them feel good about themselves and that they only care about you when you do something nice for them.

You need others who like you

People pleasers are often worried about rejection a lot. It often leads you to take action in order to avoid rejection by people because of your worries.

There is also the possibility that you feel that having people who need you will increase your chances of getting loved.

It's hard for you to say no

You can worry about someone saying 'no' or rejecting a help request, making them think you are not caring for him or her. Even if you don't have the time or inclination to assist, you may think it is safer to arrange any activities they request.

Many people agree to do something if they prefer not to do so, such as helping someone move. But a pattern of these can cause problems because