Kindness, flexibility, compassion and generosity are desirable traits. If you have children you have probably dedicated a lot of energy to emphasising the importance of these attributes and instilling good habits. However, just as Shakespeare asked, “Can one desire too much of a good thing?”, doing too much for the benefit of others, in a way that ignores your personal needs, transforms from kindness to people-pleasing.
Most learnt behavioural patterns at some stage served a purpose. For example, perhaps you generally hold a low opinion of yourself, yet when you act
