21 Steps for Change, When Life Gives You Lemons. Work! Build! Love!

By Odyssey

When life gives you lemons, how do you transition past trauma to new beginnings?
How do you focus your mind on what new aspect needs to be in order to be happy?

This very personal book is about the damage one child had to endure while learning how to become the person she would eventually become later on in life; only to find out that life did not have to stay the way her outcome became. Now she wants to change the minds, hearts, and spirits of those she encounters with her words of powerful change and wisdom. With self-love, self- rebuilding, and self-workings to change the future for others. Reach inside her mind as she gives you the tools you would need to relive again. You get a heart-wrenching journey into her life as well as a journal and manual to help you along your healing process. So what are you waiting for? Be the change, make a change and stop the generational curses right in their path!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Feb 12, 2021
• ISBN: 9781665516662

Odyssey

Odyssey is 38 years old. She lives in Chicago, she was raised by her grandmother, step grandfather and uncles. Later in life, she became a mother of three. Riddled with life's trauma she had to learn how to become a successful individual. As a role model not knowing what that was supposed to look like. She did the best with what she had. She tries to make the best of it by pursuing her dreams. One woman's trials and tribulations, three bad marriages, cancer, and cheating death. Odyssey wants to Stand in her power, NOW! Tell her story on how she made it; and you can too.

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21 Steps For Change,

When Life Gives You Lemons.

Work! Build! Love!

When you need to work on yourself, build yourself up and learn to love yourself

again! Ending the generational curses for a new future starts with you!

Odyssey

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Introduction of me!

21 Steps Guide :

1   Who am I?

2   Actions / Behaviors

3   Why do I do the things I do?

4   The Hurt You Caused Me!

5   Mother’s child

6   Father’s Child

7   Trust issues

8   When hurt turns to hate!

9   Leave me alone!

10   Abandonment

11   Rock Bottom!

12   Reflection, mirror work!

13   I’m done with the sorry’s!

14   Need for a change!

15   Forgive Not Forget!

16   Finding purpose!

17   Looking At Life Differently

18   The art of joy, the song of now!

19   The Transformation

20   Loving the new me!

21   Pay it forward!

Bonus Chapter:

The Suicide Note!

Dealing with toxic!

Choose you and let go!

Work, Build, Love!

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Building tools for purpose!

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When life leaves you no way you discover one!

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Rewrite your Journey and set yourself free!

"I thank everyone who has been there throughout this process and

for coaching me on as well as keeping me focused and allowing me

to look forward to a new future. Thank you, best friend!"

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Work, Build, Love

When you’re ready to move past the repeat, recycle and replay in YOUR LIFE!

Live in the NOW!

Live in the NEW!

Live in the YOU!

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Introduction of me!

The goal behind work, build, love and the purpose of this book is to redefine yourself and build yourself back up. The reasons for these steps and my story is so that you can understand a little bit about my life and my journey, and see how it fits in with you and your story. We all go through trials and tribulations. We all have testimonies of our own. We all have something in our life that in one way or another breaks us down. The purpose of Work is to work out all the problems that we have in our own lives. Find the solution and fix it.

For the purpose of Build, we find everything in our life that has been broken or torn down. We build it back up! We build up our development to regain our strength, power, stability, structure, and foundation, then we learn self-growth. As for the purpose of Love, we learn to trust, be understanding to others and ourselves. We work on self loyalty to become humble, to become fruitful, and to learn self-love. When you put it all together you work on you. You build yourself up, then you learn to love yourself again!

Hello my name is Odyssey, that wasn’t always my name, it’s actually has been many. See when I was born my mom didn’t know what to call me. So, my mom, my aunt and grandmother all argued on what my name should be. Eventually, they just settled with Nicole, I never got a middle name and Miranda was my last name, to be honest, it wasn’t even my dad’s! My dad really wasn’t in the picture. My last name was given to me by some man that was just dating my mom at the time. So I grew up feeling foreign not really myself. My name didn’t fit my personality, who I felt I was meant to be.

My name just didn’t fit me! I felt like I needed to find out who I was, my personality, my way of being, my character, everything that makes me - I felt that my name had to say something, I felt like it should have had meaning! I wanted to breathe power into my name. There was more in me than just being basic. My life - I never felt like I fit in with this world; And like with the rediscovery of the new name I had to learn who I was, I mean who I really was and that’s where my story begins.

I wanted to give people the ability of self-love, rebuilding their lives and see the potential of a renewed insight to their existence. I want others to rediscover the hidden potential within them. I have a new understanding of life and how it really works. I want others to see life in a different way. Don’t get stuck in the Mundane reality of what you call your life’s purpose. Throughout this book there are tips, puzzles, strategies as well as journals; so that you can follow me along the way. I’ve given you the ability to interact with me and tell me your story. We all go through things in our life. We all need help, tips and strategies as well as how to fix these problems in our own lives as well. I have learned that by being a life coach even though we question everything we never really truly listen. The problem sometimes is we need to quiet ourselves and listen even if it’s listening to ourselves, you know that inner voice. We need to fix our own problems and listen to our own advice first sometimes!

After doing some long research I have come up with a concept, sort of a theory. We are all born from a blank slate, an empty mind given a nice clean empty conscience. It is pure and innocent knowing of nothing. The ones that build this brain of ours, the ones that groom it , build it, they give us everything we need to make us, us! our whole existence is wrapped around those people. The ability to think, feel and live is because of them; And how we think or even feel is because of them as well to a point.

Example #1

Bad traits:

Look at it in this way- you’re being raised by your mother and your mother is an angry person: She hates the world, she lives with resentment and envy. She holds grudges. She’s jealous of everyone. She loves drama, She’s a gossiper, she’s a people blamer. She never holds her tongue ;and has a bad attitude towards life!To top it, she constantly tells lies . Nope we are not done yet let’s add she also is very sarcastic on top of that as well as very bitter.

Good traits or are they:

You grow up living around this behavior which makes you extremely funny, You know how to say sorry. You know how to be a loner. Now you’re all grown up and realized no one likes you. You’re a monster, you’re in relationships that are toxic and you don’t get along with anybody and they don’t get along with you. Your Relationships always seem to fail, you don’t really have any friends. People don’t understand you and you clash with a lot of people around you. To top that you don’t do well with Authority figures you basically have been set up to fail from the start.

Example #2

Bad traits:

What about if you’re being raised by your father and he tells you nothing about rules, authority, respect or obedience. You end up being raised as a snobby disrespectful brat who has no respect for others or your parents. You fall under the influence of others, you end up being a follower not a leader and you try to be an adult when you’re a child to the wrong people. When you become an adult you will have no control, respect for authority and will end up in jail, homeless, jobless or worse 6 feet in the ground.

Good traits or are they:

You are sensitive, can’t take judgement or corrected Criticism, you lash out at everyone with no self-control. You’re too worried about what people would think so you don’t change your toxic ways you’re caring but no one can see it because you have a bad personality and don’t respond to correction.

Conclusion:

• If you can see these bad traits in you would you be willing to change?

• Why don’t you want to change to become a better person?

• Or would you keep going on the destructive path with no care in the world for anyone or anything, self sabotaging your whole life because you allow your pride and ego to get in the way?

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Who am I?

Step 1

Who am I? Well, isn’t that the question. In order to answer that I would have to start at the beginning. Right now, I’m a broken individual. I’m told I have a heart of gold, but all that means is that I care too deeply, trust too freely but at the same time, I’m guarded and in order for me to explain, I first have to understand my own identity. That’s something that characterizes myself as knowing who I actually am as a person. For a long time when others looked at me, they saw this strong-willed, strong-minded individual. Not knowing that deep down inside I was a scared minded, weak-minded individual.

I was crumbling and falling apart, I had little to no voice and if I did I wasn’t using it to its full potential. If some