How to Be Yourself

By Irene S. Roth

We live in a social media-driven and noise-saturated world where we are encouraged to take selfies of ourselves and witnessing events such as our child’s first attempt at making cookies, our purchases at Costco, or how we look while at home in our PJs. Is it really necessary for us to be clicking all those photos, and are they helping us to feel better about ourselves?

I believe that each of these actions is harming our self-esteem and self-confidence. This is because we’re always compared to others. Therefore, our self-confidence is threatened because comparison makes us feel less than others. We are deeply influenced by how we treat ourselves and how we value ourselves. It, therefore, follows that being on social media too often can have a negative impact on the quality of our lives.

The reason this is the case is that social media encourages us to ignore the here and now and to fixate our minds on abstract, far-in-the-future stuff like hopes, aspirations, and dreams. Every time we glance at our phone, we find ourselves barraged with third-rate advice, and unorthodox encouragements to believe in our dreams. But what about the real person behind the dreams? What about taking steps to decide what we genuinely want?

I don’t think that social media cares much about who we are. All the distractions are causing us to focus on things outside of us instead of the inside, where we can determine who we truly are and decide on how to act based on our values. This is so important, yet it is not emphasized enough by psychologists. Whether we are teenagers or young adults, we struggle with the problem of who we are.

In this e-book, I will encourage you to think outside of the media box. Further, I will persuade you to look past the media and reframe your awareness. Throughout this e-book, I will urge you to cultivate your true self.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Irene S. Roth
• Release date: May 21, 2021
• ISBN: 9781005450618

Irene S. Roth

Irene S. Roth, MA is an academic and freelance writer. She writes academically, for teens and tweens and adults. When she isn't writing, she is teaching. She is also pursuing a Master's of Social Work Degree.

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How to Be Yourself

Irene S. Roth

Copyright 2021 Irene S. Roth

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Table of Content

Introduction

How to Read this Book

The problematic

Part I: Tips to Discover Yourself from the Inside-Out

1. Develop an Awareness of Your Beliefs and Values

2. Develop Good Character

3. Be the Best You Can be

4. Slow Down

5. Create Times for Solitude

6. Live in the Present

Part II: Tips to Discover Who You are From the Outside

7. Determine your Style

8. Determine Your Idea of Beauty

9. Decide on Your Unique Clothing Style

10. Look at Yourself in the Mirror

11. What is Your Unique Hairstyle

12. Start a Self-Discovery Journal

Conclusion

References

About the Author

Introduction

We live in a social media-driven and noise-saturated world where we are encouraged to take selfies of ourselves and witnessing events such as our child’s first attempt at making cookies, our purchases at Costco, or how we look while at home in our PJs. Is it really necessary for us to be clicking all those photos, and are they helping us to feel better about ourselves?

I believe that each of these actions are harming our self-esteem and self-confidence. This is because we’re always compared to others. Therefore, our self-confidence is threatened because comparison makes us feel less than others. We are deeply influenced by how we treat ourselves and how we value ourselves. It therefore follows that being on social media too often can have a negative impact on the quality of our lives.

The reason this is the case is that social media encourages us to ignore the here and now and to fixate our minds on abstract, far-in-the-future stuff like hopes, aspirations, and dreams. Every time we glance at our phone, we find ourselves barraged with third-rate advice, and unorthodox encouragements to believe in our dreams. But what about the real person behind the dreams? What about taking steps to decide what we genuinely want?

I don’t think that social media cares much about who we are. All the distractions are causing us to focus on things outside of us instead of the inside where we can determine who we truly are and decide on how to act based on our values. This is so important, yet it is not emphasized enough by psychologists. Whether we are teenagers or young adults, we struggle with the problem of who we are.

In this e-book, I will encourage you to think outside of the media box. Further, I will try to persuade you to look past the media and reframe your awareness and turn inward instead of outward. Throughout this e-book, I will urge you to cultivate your true self.

To be ourselves, we need to live in the here and now. We also should put away our technological devices and enter the silence of our souls to determine who we are. Given our noisy world, this can take some practice and patience to achieve. However, I believe we can move past our tech devices and use them sparingly so we