The Highly Sensitive Person

By Valerie Marie

Do you feel different ? Do you have a fertile imagination ? Is "Emotion" your favorite nickname ? Do you have a lot of empathy for others ? Do you overanalyze things ? Are you struggling in your relationships ?

If the answer is yes, then you are likely to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

In this book, you will discover :

• How to identify and understand your sensitivity
• How to improve your relationships
• How to deal with your professional life
• Tips to take care of your inner sensitivity and take your right place
• How to manage your 'Out of the box' feeling
• Some of my personal experiences as a highly sensitive person

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter I - What is high sensitivity ?

Major characteristics of high sensitivity
Side effects of high sensitivity
High sensitivity and childhood
Taking our place as a sensitive person

Chapter II - High sensitivity and Relationships

Feeling different
Envy and jealousy
The crab basket mentality
Jante's law
Survivor syndrome
Managing daily life
Defining our limits
Learn to say no
You don't always have to be happy !
Tribalism
Love relationships

Chapter III - High sensitivity and Professional Life

Living together
Living with colleagues and hierarchy
A suitable workplace
Should we talk about our high sensitivity at work ?
What is the ideal job for a high sensitive person ?
The self-entrepreneur status

Chapter IV - Living better with your high sensitivity

Letting go
Having faith
Recognize potential addictions
Express your creativity
Cutting yourself off from social networks
Reconnect with nature
Adopt a healthy lifestyle
Learn to say no

Thank you ...

Valérie Marie is high potential and high sensitive. Therapist, trainer and author, she helps women in their quests for self-fulfillment.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Valerie Marie
• Release date: Jul 3, 2023
• ISBN: 9798223006640

Valerie Marie

Valérie Marie est multipotentielle hypersensible. Après 20 années de salariat, le burn out, le bore out et le harcèlement moral, elle décide de tout quitter pour se lancer dans l’entreprenariat. Depuis 2014, Valérie est slasheuse professionnelle et a développé 4 métiers différents. Thérapeute, Consultante Feng Shui, Blogueuse culinaire et Business mentor spécialisée en profil multipotentiel. Elle a à cœur d’accompagner les femmes vers une vie professionnelle sur mesure, une vie où elles s’épanouiront dans leur singularité et leur intégrité. Valérie Marie publie régulièrement des articles sur son site (www.femmemultipotentielle.com) et est également l’auteure d’Hypersensibilité, l’apprivoiser pour ne plus subir vos tsunamis émotionnels.

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Chapter I - What is high sensitivity ?

Major characteristics of high sensitivity

15 to 20% of the world's population would be diagnosed as highly sensitive, with an equal distribution between men and women. 70% of sensitive people would present an introverted nature and 30% an extroverted nature[2].

Elaine Aron, psychologist, explains in her book The highly sensitive person: How to thrive when the world overwhelms you that highly sensitive people show an intense activity of the right cerebral hemisphere, seat of intuition and emotions. They also show a more reactive immune and nervous system.

More recently, neurosciences have also shown that high sensitivity often coexists with high potentiality and multipotentiality factors. These people would therefore be wired differently at a neurological level and offered highly developed cognitive abilities.

According to Imi Lo, psychologist, high sensitivity shows five major characteristics[3]:

-Emotional charge

-Sense of perception

-Empathy

-Spirituality and rich inner world

-Creative potential

Let's review each of these characteristics.

Emotional charge

The emotional charge is the major characteristic of high sensitivity. Emotions, rich and varied, are experienced in an intense way.

High sensitive, I go from laughter to tears in less than five minutes and sometimes, I really think I’m bipolar. Alert to my environment and surroundings, my pleasant and unpleasant emotions are easily mixed and lead me to a form of permanent frustration. This is destabilizing, insecure and tiring at the same time. Sometimes I feel out of step, sometimes isolated, sometimes misunderstood.

The emotional intensity is always there and almost everything can create an emotion : a smell, a music, a word, a painting, a picture... It gives a very vibrant and passionate aspect to my personality.

I have the feeling that I am always 'too much': too sensitive, too emotional, too passionate, too naive, too trusting... For a long time, I did not know what to do with these 'too much', how to manage them, how to tame them... Some friends of mine sometimes considered me as unstable, unmanageable or immature.

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Sense of perception

Without really being able to explain, the high sensitive person detects subtle things that emanate from his environment and his surroundings like intuitions, body sensations, inner voices or mental images.

The sensitive has a developed intuition and works as a visionary: he sees, thinks in global mode and connects things together, often with great accuracy. He is able to feel other’s emotions (empathy) but, sometimes, this is not appreciated because people may have the impression that the high sensitive doesn’t respect their intimacy.

From my side, if I feel that words and actions coming from a person are not aligned, I will have some difficulties to trust this person. I can't deal with irony and the ‘not-said’. I appreciate people who put their cards on the table...

This ability to clearly see things, this clear-sightedness can be disturbing. I like to say things and not wrap my words with honey because of social conventions. This is why, by default, anything that is conformist and traditional is sometimes difficult for me to live with because it can lead me into circumstances where my authenticity is not respected.

The perception of a high sensitive is also sensory. Their five senses are highly developed and they can quickly feel invaded from all sides.

Personally, my high perception makes me sensitive to:

- sounds that are too loud (ambulance, shouts, phone ringtones...)

- smells that are too strong (air pollution, perfume, sweat, car