Assertiveness for Teens
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There is nothing harder than asserting yourself as a teenager. But if you can learn how to assert yourself at this time in your life, you will be able to assert yourself later in your early adult years. In fact, developing assertiveness should be ongoing. There will never be a time where you are able to deal with every situation and person assertively. Every situation and person will give you a new set of raw feelings and emotions to deal with, new vulnerabilities, and therefore new ways to assert your needs.
It is easier to be a follower. You could wear all the best label clothes that the media encourages you to buy, do what your friends want you to just fit in, and lose a sense of who you truly are in the process. It is important to be able to live in a way that is authentic and assertive.
It is also important for you to show the world and everyone in it who you truly are. And you should expect and accept that everyone won’t agree with you. However, if a person’s values and beliefs are contrary to your own, it is best to end the friendship right away. You don’t deserve to have constant conflict and turmoil as a teen. In this e-book, I will show you how to assert yourself.
Irene S. Roth
Irene S. Roth, MA is an academic and freelance writer. She writes academically, for teens and tweens and adults. When she isn't writing, she is teaching. She is also pursuing a Master's of Social Work Degree.
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Assertiveness for Teens - Irene S. Roth
Assertiveness for Teens
Irene S. Roth
Copyright 2018 Irene S. Roth
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Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1 – Know Yourself
Chapter 2 – Determine Your Values
Chapter 3 – Accept Yourself
Chapter 4 – Listen to Your Gut
Chapter 5 – Respect Yourself
Chapter 6 – Be Yourself
Chapter 7 – Make Good Decisions
Chapter 8 – Express Yourself Clearly
Chapter 9 – Say No and Mean It
Chapter 10 – Deal with Anger Proactively
Chapter 11 – Avoid Teasers and Bullies
Chapter 12 – Choose Your Friends Carefully
Conclusion
Resources
About the Author
Introduction
The teen years are difficult indeed. And this is especially the case because teens feel so vulnerable and unsure of themselves. It can be hard for teens to assert themselves. Many teens have low self-esteem and self-confidence. There are several possible culprits of such low self-esteem.
Some of it may be caused by our consumerist culture which forces teens to purchase their way to feeling better and having friends. This message can only result in more weakness and low self-esteem. We need to figure out how to be ourselves and live without all these props and external ways of being accepted.
Another culprit for teen low self-esteem is that parents don’t show teens how to respect themselves. Instead, parents dictate everything that a teen should do and who they should hang out with. After a while, teens don’t know who they truly feel close to and whether they should trust a certain person after being put down many times. Respect is usually taught through actions. If parents show respect to their teens, they will know how to respect others as well. But sadly, this is missing almost entirely in our upbringing.
The third culprit of low self-esteem is that we are trying desperately to develop our own identities and sense of self. Much of this effort is squashed and even criticized. Parents hate when their teens try to do things for themselves and assert themselves. Yet, this is precisely what they must do to learn who they are and what they value.
Fourth, we experience low self-esteem because we still don’t know what we truly value. So, it is far easier for us to listen to the influences of culture and the types of likes and dislikes that they are portraying and promoting. The media is so damaging to the development of our self-esteem, yet it is so ubiquitous because we are surrounded by these messages 24/7.
Further, many of the messages we receive are far from praiseworthy to our self-esteem. At most, it encourages us to belong. The sad news is that unless we learn what we value without the media messages, we won’t be able to really determine our identity. We will usually depend on the media to tell us what is right.
So, given these cultural influences on a teen’s self-esteem and self-confidence, I felt compelled to write an e-book about how we can assert ourselves from the inside out. By asserting ourselves in this way, we can get into the driver’s seat of our own self-development and self-esteem. I believe that the time for developing self-confidence is NOW!!!
I hope this e-book will help all of you determine where to start with building self-esteem and self-confidence. Further, I hope to equip you with strategies to cope with the outside forces which are trying to undermine your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Outline of the Chapters
This book will be divided into two parts. In part I, I will focus on some of the key ways to build self-esteem from the inside-out. I believe it is most important for us to develop ways that we can feel comfortable in our own skin. Without feeling confident and happy with who they are, we won’t be able to become assertive on the outside with others and our friends.
To this end, in Chapter 1, I will discuss how we can learn to be who we genuinely are and to celebrate