Do you really need to love yourself first before loving someone else? Self-love is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help movement and one of the most common things relationship coaches discuss on social media. Many of us identify as having self-esteem problems and that is actually be holding us back more! The problem is that constantly striving for self love, self esteem and a healthy body image reminds us we aren’t there yet. And thinking we need to keep working on ourselves before we can be in a healthy relationship can actually keep us stuck.In this episode you’ll learn:Why “self love” and self-esteem become an obstacle to the relationships we wantThe concepts of “no self,” and non-duality that Buddhism and Eckhart Tolle talk aboutBody appreciation: Changing your perspective on body imageThe ways in which “self love” can actually be helping us: self energy, inner security, self-care, genital love, masturbationHeather’s experience learning self love and self acceptance through accepting and loving others. The outside-in concept of self loveResources:FREE DIRTY TALK GUIDECURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME?Book a discovery call ⤵️https://HeatherShannon.co/video-pageEckhart Tolle Video: The Direct ExperiencingLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:WebsiteInstagramJoin the free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook GroupTwitterYouTube(Check out the video version of this podcast!)LinkedIn