Heather answers questions from both listeners and colleagues on how to handle sexual situations. She also comments on the recent debacle with Keke Palmer and her boyfriend: Keke’s outfit at the Usher conference, her boyfriend’s comments and why they were out of line. The situation depicts not only patriarchal overtones, but also the madonna whore complex. Learn what the madonna whore complex is and why it’s important not to categorize or objectify women in this way. Heather will also cover questions on crossing professional boundaries, what to do when you’re a nearly 40-year old virgin, and why virginity is actually a really loaded word that people can get an unnecessary complex about.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn:How to deal with someone making sexually inappropriate comments to you. Why we develop crushes on our therapists, healers and personal trainers and when to say somethingSome reasons you might still be a virgin into your late 30’s and beyond & how to approach becoming more sexual if that’s the caseHow our nervous system response can play into sexual avoidance and the importance of taking pressure off sexual performanceTIMESTAMPS(00:09:17) Opening Up Sexuality(00:23:03) Managing Stressors(00:04:46) Crush in Therapy(00:00:04) Handling Client Crushes(00:18:22) Initiating Intimacy(00:13:56) Losing VirginityEPISODE LINKSWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717 Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw  SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 27 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/17fd37 Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp