Join host Heather Shannon and guest Kesiena Boom in an engaging and enlightening conversation as they explore the captivating world of queerness, kink, and fearless communication. Unravel the meaning of "femme" within the queer community as they provide insights for queer women on confidently approaching and asking out their crushes. Discover the allure of play parties, gain wisdom on direct communication, learn the art of hitting on someone without being creepy, and explore the depths of desire. Get ready for an adventure of self-discovery and empowerment!In this episode, Heather and Kesiena delve into the dynamic realms of queerness, kink, and daring conversations. They decode the essence of "femme" within the queer community, offering guidance for queer women seeking to approach and ask out their love interests. Embracing the spirit of rebellion, they discuss play parties, direct communication, and the art of pursuing desire while maintaining respect. Join them as they share valuable insights for navigating intimate relationships and embracing your true desires.Key Topics Covered:Understanding the diverse aspects of "femme" within the queer community.Empowering queer women to confidently approach and ask out their love interests.Embracing queerness as a celebration of self-expression and individuality.Exploring the captivating world of kink and the role of play parties.Effective communication, consent, and respectful approaches to expressing desire.Timestamps[00:00:00] Navigating Queer Women's Desires[00:03:28] Importance of Understanding Desires in Queer Women[00:07:20] Exploring BDSM, Kink, and Queer Identities in "X[00:11:26] Embracing Non-Traditional Relationships[00:15:06] Discovering and identifying sexual desires[00:18:32] Deconstructing Cultural Views on Sexuality[00:22:23] Exploring Women's Same-Sex Sexuality[00:26:00] BDSM Play Parties: Finding and Staying Safe[00:29:48] Requirements for attending play parties[00:33:20] Queer sex and power dynamics[00:37:07] Navigating Desire As A Queer Woman[00:40:48] The Art of Asking Someone Out[00:44:08] Boldly Pursuing Romantic Connections[00:47:14] Aggressive flirting in relationshipsEpisode LinksWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a no-pressure $1 discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Paul Takes The Form Of A Mortal Girl - https://amzn.to/3IU1B6U (referral link)FIND OUT MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST:https://kesienaboom.journoportfolio.com/ SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Episode 25 - Sex & The Single Life - https://pod.fo/e/17c237Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671Episode 13 - Is Monogamy Realistic? -