This episode was prompted by a recent audience question, but it’s an age-old debate in the sex therapy realm. Is it lame to schedule sex? If you don’t schedule it, do you wind up just being in a permanent sex rut? Of course spontaneous sex can feel extra hot and intense . . . and no one wants sex to feel like another appointment on their calendar. We want novelty and adventure in our sex lives to keep things spicy. But sometimes you and your partner want sex at different times of day or your schedules make you like ships passing in the night and it’s all conversations about logistics when you do have a moment together.It doesn’t have to be that way!Listen in to this episode to find out:1. The pros and cons of scheduling sex2. Who should and shouldn’t schedule intimacy3. Whether you should schedule sex or just create the conditions for sex.4. How to build anticipation when you’re scheduling sex. 5. The importance of childcare for a great relationshipSEXY SUMMER BOOK CLUB:Check out Heather’s new Sexy Summer Book Club. Sign up now and start reading Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller for our first meeting on July 11th. SaveYour Spot → https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/sexy-summer-book-clubLET’S CONNECT! FIND ME HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwREVIEWER PRIZES!!!Give us a rating and review to help spread Heather’s feel-good messages about sexuality. https://podfollow.com/askasextherapistWas it your Apple Podcasts review that was read on today’s episode? You get a free book bundle! Choose any 3 books from Heather’s Amazon Storefront and we will mail them to you. Reach out via email at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize. If you prefer audiobooks instead, we can gift you a 3-month Audible membership as your prize.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp