After hearing from a few men “Nice guys finish last–maybe I should start being a dick and women will like me!” Heather decided it was time to set the record straight. Join Heather and her guest Matt Artisan for this discussion on reframing the way we think about approaching other people, flirting and being confident. Matt is an award-winning dating coach who has appeared on Netflix, ABC News Nightline, Fox and more and who has been coaching men for over a decade in over 40 countries. In this episode, Matt gets into his own journey with being socially anxious and how he overcame it not once, but TWICE! Matt encourages men to take action and get out of their comfort zone in order to get results. They also discuss how to equalize the playing field when it comes to sexual attraction, how to be confident without money, looks, or muscles, and how experiential coaching and therapy can help people shift their thought patterns. Finally, Matt provides tips on how men can be more confident and brave when interacting with women.Heather and Matt also discuss the culture of pickup artists and how authenticity wins out in the end. TIMESTAMPS(00:00:02) Owning Your Flaws(00:05:46) Instant Dates(00:10:50) Avoiding "Nice Guy" Syndrome(00:16:23) Developing Core Confidence(00:22:00) Improving Confidence(00:27:16) Attractive Masculinity(00:32:28) Masculine-Feminine Polarity(00:37:57) Attracting WomenEPISODE LINKSWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a free no-pressure discovery call to learn about Heather’s 3-month “Intimacy Infusion” coaching program - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.coHeather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapistJoin Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOwCONNECT WITH MATT ARTISAN:Matt’s Website - https://TheAttractiveMan.comMatt’s Instgram - https://www.instagram.com/mattartisan  SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Episode 18 - Dating, Makeovers & Confidence from the Outside-In with Kimmy Seltzer - https://pod.fo/e/16fa44 Episode 9 - How to Feel Sexy - https://pod.fo/e/15f72a RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistAll Apple written reviews are eligible to win a 3-book bundle of books (or audiobooks) from Heather’s Amazon Storefront (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc). Listen to the podcast to win and if you hear your review read, email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com to claim your prize!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp