Ep 182: Owning Your Sexual Self with Rachel Maine. Rachel is a Sex Therapist, Sex & Relationship Coach, and podcaster at Owning Your Sexual Self.  She's an amazing resource to help people have better sex, improved relationships, and more pleasure in their lives. She was fascinating and wonderful to chat with and I'm super excited to share her with all of you! We chatted about the masculine and feminine energies, including what they both are with examples, and why we should embrace both sides of them within ourselves. Yup. We have both! It's not a gender thing; it's an energy thing. We also talked about how sex toys and erotica are great tools to improve your sexuality of yourself and of that with your partner. They are an enhancement, a tool, not a replacement.We talked about how important communication is in relationships. We also addressed the fact that around 85% of women need clitoral stimulation to climax (and how sex toys can help with this too in positions where the clit is not getting enough stimulation to reach climax).Rachel talked about low desire and how to help with that, plus I loved her discussion of erotic blueprints and how knowing what category you fall into can help guide your sex life to flow more smoothly, and efficiently, and lead to more satisfaction and pleasure.  There's a website that offers how to help you determine which category you fall into: https://missjaiya.com/ We talked about the definition of orgasms and how there are different types and how important foreplay is ... and it's her favorite 'F' word! I love that! She also recommends women have an orgasm before penetration occurs since women can often easily have multiple orgasms.Other topics include sexuality, romance, psychology, self care, intimacy, health and fitness.To connect with Rachel Maine, please visit here: https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/aboutand here: https://msha.ke/therachelmaine/?fbclid=IwAR0d5iYpmbKU0HUSRsKc3nO3I5RA6oqzWUm44X0x2gIuTS5J3s6HjhjeRFIThank you for coming on my podcast Rachel!About Ruan, the podcast host:Connect with Ruan across the internet via https://linktr.ee/RuanWillowNew NSFW Audiobook releases mentioned in the podcast (affiliate):Daddy Never Had to Use His Belt On Me Before: A BDSM Impact Play Spanking Story https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/9b69e62e-19ab-11ed-9d46-676ce26d62f8Free book with free trial of Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0B8TLTBK8/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-318053&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_318053_pd_usThe Lesbian Collection: Six Stories of Girl on Girl Shrinking and Growinghttps://amzn.to/3T1Jj75Free book with free trial of Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0B9HXQV2R/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-318632&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_318632_pd_usThanks for listening to this episode! Have a sexy day!Support the show