ABC for Anxiety and Stress Relief
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This is a book filled with life lessons by someone who is still learning about life. The lessons in this book are all examples of tips, theories and exercises I have learned during some of the hardest times in my life. Due to these experiences and lessons I am now able to see these hard times as the times that have devel
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ABC for Anxiety and Stress Relief - Tim van Rooijen
ABC
for Anxiety and Stress Relief
Life lessons
By Tim van Rooijen
©2023 Tim van Rooijen
ABC for Anxiety and Stress Relief
First print: September 2023
©2023 Published by Paris Books
Cover design by: Ellen Langendam - artwisedesign.nl
abcforstressrelief@gmail.com
ISBN: 97 894 93345 02 7
NUR: 600
BISAC code: OCC019000
BODY, MIND & SPIRIT / Inspiration & Personal Growth
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No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, stored in a database and / or published in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher.
To Dad
For helping me help myself
Introduction
It is quite likely that you are living with anxiety if you purchased or got this book. Or perhaps you just want to learn how to cope with stress and how to reduce it.
I cannot claim to be an expert in psychology or mental health, therefore if you have serious anxiety or other mental problems, please seek the advice of a professional who can provide you with the necessary support.
However, in this book I would like to share with you my own experience and the lessons I have learned along the way. I hope that reading this will encourage you to reflect on your own self-development journey and to be more honest with yourself.
My name is Tim van Rooijen and at the time of writing this I am 26 years old and working as a financial analyst at an internationally well-known accounting firm.
Five years ago, I developed a social anxiety disorder which had a big impact on my day-to-day life. This disorder took over my life just when I was finishing college and starting to work full-time. I was no longer able to speak in groups or call clients or co-workers who I did not know very well, without suffering and fighting through a panic attack first.
Even worse, each time I experienced these intensely anxious feelings and thoughts, they almost always reappeared right after the event I had been worried about. I was unable to be proud of what I had done for very long as I would already be fixated on the next event and start feeling anxious again. Even if there was no such event coming up soon, I would be terrified that that could change at any minute. This meant that I was always on edge and my base level of anxiety only got higher, to the point where I was no longer able to fully relax.
After extensive conversations with psychologists and spending a lot of time on self-development, I gradually started to overcome my anxiety disorder. But just as I started to feel more in control, my father committed suicide. So, with a period of mourning and many depressing thoughts, my father’s loss set me right back to the beginning. It was even worse than it had been before. I could not even get a haircut or go to the grocery store anymore without the risk of having a (minor) panic attack.
I had to start over from scratch, but this time I knew what was coming. With a new therapist, I set up a plan and started yet another protracted journey towards resolving my disorder. Even though I cannot say that it is completely in the past, I can say that I have rediscovered myself and am fairly comfortable with where I am now.
Writing this book has helped me take another look at all the lessons I have learned and reflect on the progress I have made over the last years. It is easy to lose track of everything you have learned, especially when so many things happen in your life.
I hope that after reading this book, you will be motivated to put some of these lessons into practice. They have helped me along the way, and I wish I had known about them sooner. I have written it in the hope that it will provide you with some insights – some tips and ideas to try out for yourself so you too can live the life you want.
Over the last years I have read many self-help books, participated in personal development courses, and had many therapy sessions. All of this, along with my own personal experience, has helped form the basis for this book. Perhaps you will perceive a certain bias at times, but you are free to form your own opinions and find what suits you. I trust that you will find something here to help you through your difficult times.
You might want to read some of the books in the reference list I have supplied at the end of the book. These books have certainly helped me along the way, some more than others. I hope they will help you as well.
Anxiety
Heart pounding, hands sweating, the sudden urge to run away and a lump in my throat. These are the sensations I experienced way too often when I first started working after college. I had developed a social anxiety disorder.
These sensations were triggered when I had to introduce myself, had to call a new colleague or client, or if I thought there might be a slight chance I would be expected to speak during a meeting.
When I became aware of this, I became even more afraid of it happening again. I would lie awake at night, heart racing and feeling nauseous because I had a meeting the next day and I was afraid I would have another panic attack.
This led me to protect myself from the feelings by avoiding situations that could bring up these anxious thoughts. I did not realize that this caused even more anxiety as I no longer challenged myself to step out of my comfort zone.
Stepping out of my comfort zone is what I have found makes me feel more comfortable. It has taken me many years but there is a lot I can now do which I could not do a few years ago. Of course, there are still many situations that cause me anxiety, but I am more able to comfort myself in advance to take on the challenges and learn from them.
In this first chapter I would like to share some tips that have helped me prevent this feeling of anxiety and others that help reduce anxiety whenever it does occur. They have been a great help to me over the years, and I hope they will help you as well.
Exposure
Exposure is about doing what causes you anxiety to experience that your thoughts are actually