A Relationship Pocket Guide Written for Women by Men!

By James Knuckles

A Relationship Pocket Guide Written for Women by Men is a resource for those with very little or extensive experience with relationships to refer to for guidance on some of the most common relationship issues we face as men and women. It is honest, simple, straightforward, and easy to understand. It will resonate with most people who have been in past relationships and will provide many aha moments for those entering into new relationships!

Will make an excellent gift for that young son or daughter or other young person in your life that you know who will benefit from this guide on relationships! Perfect for the newlyweds!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Page Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Jun 11, 2021
• ISBN: 9781662413636

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A Relationship Pocket Guide Written for Women by Men!

James Knuckles

Copyright © 2021 James Knuckles

All rights reserved

First Edition

PAGE PUBLISHING, INC.

Conneaut Lake, PA

First originally published by Page Publishing 2021

ISBN 978-1-6624-1362-9 (pbk)

ISBN 978-1-6624-1363-6 (digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Table of Contents

Philosophy

Respect

Communication

Trust

Infidelity

Feelings

Dating

Responsibility

Money/Finances

Sex

True Love

Social Media and Online Dating

Values

Divorce/Breakup

Tips for Women

Closing Thoughts

Bonus Chapter

Some men’s questions

Acknowledgments

I want to thank some of the women who have been instrumental in my life and helped to mold and shape me into the man I am today. Truthfully, I can’t think of any men who filled the role of a father or father figure in my life growing up. I suspect this is one of the reasons I have the insight I have into relationships with women.

I want to start with my mom. My mom was the most influential person in my life. Without a doubt, her being both a strong mother and father molded me into the strong, confident, intelligent, and capable man I am today! She taught me values and life lessons I still call upon today even in my older age! I will always love and be forever grateful to you, Mom!

Along with my mother, I would also like to thank my sister, Mae, who was there to fill in for my mom when she wasn’t there.

My aunt Nannie and aunt Rose were there to fill in for my mom also, and I want to acknowledge them as well! As a very small boy growing up, I could always seek their counsel when I needed them.

My wife, Alice, was a godsend! She came into my life at a time when there was a void I was looking to fill! She has more than filled that void and has been a rock-solid partner and has brought much happiness into my life!

I want to also acknowledge our kids—Brien, Nickie, Jennifer, and Jolene! They helped make our interracially blended family merger go smoothly. They never gave my wife and me any problems and made it seem and feel as though we had always been a family!

There are many, many more I want to thank and acknowledge, too many to name, but you know who you are…thank you…I am forever grateful!

Introduction

Disclaimer: Let me first start with a disclaimer (a statement that denies something, especially responsibility). I feel I have an obligation to forewarn those of you, men and women, who may think you have a good marriage or relationship and one that you are happy with at this time! If this is you, then I would strongly suggest, encourage, and recommend that you not purchase or read this guide! I have heard it said that sometimes ignorance is bliss! I would suggest that this may be one of those times, especially if you truly believe you have a wonderful working relationship, and no changes are required! There will be things you will read in this guide that will surprise, shock, and upset you! There will be things you won’t agree with and probably find offensive! There are many controversial topics and discussions! This guide isn’t intended to suggest what type of relationship you should or should not have or be involved in or what it should or should not look like. If you are happy in your relationship and no one is getting hurt or breaking any moral or legal laws, no matter what others may think or say and you and your mate are happy, then that is probably the right relationship for you and your mate.

I am not writing this guide to get rich or make a lot of money. I believe we are all blessed or gifted with certain special talents or skills, and one of mine is understanding people and how and why relationships succeed or fail! I am sure you are going to be greatly enlightened by this guide, and you may come to the realization that your relationship isn’t what you thought it was or what you wanted it to be! So if your relationship becomes rocky or fails after reading this guide, you have been forewarned!

There will be instances where many of you reading this guide will think you or someone else you may know are being referenced personally. Some situations referenced in this guide may sound or seem very familiar or similar to yours or someone else you may know. Please don’t automatically assume or discount the possibility that you or someone else that you may know may or may not be the subject of a particular reference or situation stated in this guide! I will not confirm nor deny that any reference or situation in this guide is concerning a particular individual or individuals. Please take some comfort and solace in the fact that the references and situations in this guide are much too common for you to automatically assume that it is about you or someone else you may know or a particular relationship you or they may or may not have been involved in!

I have spoken to many individuals over the years, and they have entrusted me with some very personal and sensitive information about their relationships, and I will not violate that trust! If you suspect that you or someone else you know may be the subject of a particular situation or reference in this guide, then this will probably be a perfect opportunity to discuss this situation or reference with your partner or mate! The title of the guide might lead you to believe that it is only written for women, and only they can benefit from what is being shared. I am confident that men will find this guide as equally beneficial or possibly even more so! If nothing else, men will come to understand that there are many other men that see women and relationships a lot like they do, and that can be comforting and reassuring. So I encourage you to encourage your partner to read this guide also!

The odds are that the women reading this guide will have varying degrees of experiences with romantic relationships with men. Some may have never or only have been involved in one or two serious romantic relationships with men. So it would be understandable that those individuals may have limited experience and knowledge on men and how they behave in relationships. There will be many of you who have had many relationships with many men, and you feel you have a very good understanding of men and relationships in general. I would guess your experiences may be many, but your knowledge of how men in general think and feel about women aren’t any greater or lesser than the women with limited experience. You may have just had more opportunities to possibly misunderstand and misjudge men and relationships!

Many of you will have been soured on men early in your development into womanhood and dealing with men to the point where you were done with men early on. You just gave up on the possibility of finding the right man, a man you could trust and one who you could fall in love and be happy with. You decided that all men were basically the same, so you just accepted any man regardless of how he treated you. Some of you have been hurt so much and so many times that you have decided to take your hurt out on every man you have the opportunity to do so with.

I have suspected for many years that men have had problems communicating with women about relationship issues and their feelings. I have suspected this because I have had many women tell me so! Men are frequently accused of having problems communicating and expressing their feelings, especially on relationship issues to women, and this has frequently puzzled women! Her: I don’t understand why you can’t or won’t communicate with me and tell me what you are thinking and how you are feeling! I always communicate with you and let you know how I feel and what is on my mind! (Note to women: men generally call this bitching!)

Women, in general, feel that men can’t be trusted. They believe men lie, cheat, have a problem listening, and are insensitive to their feelings. Women think men make unreasonable requests of them, like wanting them to lose weight and then desiring to have sex with them in the very next breath! Her: He is always telling me I am getting fat, but he always wants sex from me! (Note to women: Men don’t necessarily see weight and sex having anything to do with one or the other. That is strictly a