Know Your Role, Know Your Road and Stay in Your Lane

By Tarshish S. Newberry

This book is about eight women that are in a strenuous relationship, the crying, the heart aches, and the long nights that people do not see or expect to go through when entering a relationship, some surviving their obstacles and others did not. How eight different women wanting the same thing from their man end up on different roads by their choices in life. Also, it has a straight forward view of conducted interviews with men and my personal opinion on being that desired wife. Including my testimonies how God or whatever deity you believe in can be your strength and pull you through.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Apr 10, 2014
• ISBN: 9781493186815

Tarshish S. Newberry

Born a native Detroiter but raised across America, I visited Alabama, Georgia, California, Louisiana and other various states. In traveling throughout America I moved back home to Detroit, where this book derived from. In conversations and reviewing my background, I watched women, admiring different characteristics and imitating some of their styles. I began to write this book about women and our role in society due to the women who influenced me. I share how my life, like others, just by sight can change one’s life even by the words we speak and the care we take for others as well as ourselves. I felt like women and relationships are becoming devalued because women’s roles are changing.

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Copyright © 2014 by Tarshish S. Newberry.

ISBN:                  Softcover                              978-1-4931-8680-8

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This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any actual persons, living or dead, events, or locales is entirely coincidental.

Rev. date: 04/07/2014

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Contents

Dedication

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Dedication

This book is dedicated to my inspiration, who inspired me, I Love You.

To my brother LaMonn Duncan may you rest in peace, to my son James Charles and to the people who have continuously shown me unconditional love by supporting me financially and emotionally through this difficult writing experience. May God bless those who have blessed me, bless those who supported me and bless each and every person whose hands touch this book. May you enjoy, accept and receive your message that is for you.

Thank You

Dear Readers,

This book contains the controversial topic of a submissive woman. This book will only contain my opinions, experiences, and views. I have also included the views of men and women that I have had the pleasure of interviewing, along with quotes from the Bible as support.

Names, dates, places, and incidents related to the interviews in this book have been changed or omitted for a variety of reasons. Including but not limited to the security, safety, and wellbeing of the people, places involved. Any resemblance to anyone living or dead is purely coincidental. I will leave it up to you the reader to realize what is what, who is who, and where is where.

Tarshish

Chapter 1

Doing You!

The most important thing is to, Do You! This is where a woman can truly find her soul mate and be the wife she deserves to be. No matter what size or shape you are, men love us all. As long as women, and people remember to, Do You. There is a mate for everyone. There is someone who likes the things you do and enjoy the same hobbies and activities as you. There is someone who loves the how you look and carry yourself.

As I went through my relationships; I realized that nothing worked better for the relationship, than doing what I felt was best for me. The things that pleased me were activities I did for my family. Even If that meant doing something that I did not want to do which is the hardest to DO. However, they always turned out to be the best actions for me. As long as I did what I felt was best, right and followed God’s Word, everything else fell into place.

What is, Doing You? It is self-maintenance that includes preparing hair, nails, working out to look presentable at all times. Men and women respect any women who can maintain their own independence. If doing you, means doing him, then do It, remember this is your relationship and not anyone else’s. What you may put up with in your relationship, someone else may not and what someone else may put up with in their relationship, you may not. For Instance, there are couples who may enjoy the social company of other couples, while you and your mate may not. There are couples who like to swing and you would not dare have another woman in the same room as you and your mate.

When you are Doing You people respect you and either want to be an asset to you or be in your presence at all times. You might even find a person emulating your style. When you hear someone say, "Do You! Do not get mad, just agree and say, I always do. There are people who like to destroy happiness and there are others who steal joy like the Bible says, The thief only comes to steal and kill and destroy."(John 10:10) You are sure to find someone who will compliment and respect what you have going on. Men respect WOMEN who DO their own thing. A man will want to be an addition to her life and have her as an addition to his. Men like to see if a woman will have their back when they need it. A man can send a woman through ‘tests’ but the only way a woman can be that woman is if she is Doing her. Doing You consists of taking care of yourself first. Once a woman takes care of herself first by placing herself in a position where she is able to maintain herself then she can assist others. When a person boards an airplane, they will hear the flight attendant share these instructions, Apply and secure your oxygen mask first before assisting others. The reason why you are instructed to secure your mask first is so you can have enough oxygen and energy to assist others. This places you in a position where you are able and suitable to help others. How can you help someone else if you cannot help yourself? There are some women who prefer a man to take care of them. If you are a lady who prefers a man to take care of you, I’m sure a man will come along but that comes with consequences. Those consequences could be verbal and/or physical abuse or anything else he may request of you to do and/or be. You must know what you are getting yourself into. I am not a doctor and I do not have a PHD, this is solely my opinion on becoming that desired wife. These observations are for entertainment purposes only, but have been proven to work.

If you are uncertain what Doing You means, ask yourself a few questions:

What is your hobby/Interest of choice?

What is your profession of choice?

What type of man do you like?

I ask these three questions because once a woman knows herself, follows her career, and her hobbies the man she likes and/or prefers will find her. You know how the saying goes, If you want to date a doctor then hang out where doctors are. The same idea applies with any other man. If you want a thug go where thugs hang out. If you want a dentist go where dentists hang out. Once you find your ideal mate who respects your hobbies, career, and encourages you to live out God’s Will for your life, then continue to Do You. But if he is not and he asks you to stop if you’re willing and ready to fully commit, then do what he asked. Allow a man to be a man and be there for you. After all, men were placed