A Conversation with a Real Woman: Words of Empowerment for All Women

By Divine Peach

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Mar 24, 2011
• ISBN: 9781456895174

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FOREWARD

I wrote this book for my two young daughters who will soon be two lovely young ladies. This book represents an appreciation of my past, a love for my present, and a huge curiosity about my future. I wrote this book for the young girl who doesn’t quite understand love or who doesn’t have anyone to talk to or for the woman who was married for twenty years and is now going through a divorce. This book is for the young woman who has loved and is now lost. I wrote this for the woman who said enough is enough and I can’t be in a relationship anymore. I wrote this book for the woman who is finding out the hard way that starting over is sometimes very hard to do. I wrote this book for the young girl who feels she is ready to experience love for the first time. I wrote this book for the young girl and the woman who are tired of talking to others and want to stand up and figure out things on their own.

I wrote this for the woman who said she wants another way to look at things. I wrote this book to hopefully inspire a young girl who thinks she’s ready to wait just a little while longer. I wrote this book for the young lady who is trying to figure out who she is. I wrote this for the young lady who wants to help a friend but doesn’t know what to say. This book is for the woman who thinks she is ready, but wants to have a conversation with someone just to make sure. This is for the young mom that just doesn’t know how to talk to her young daughter and is looking for some ideas. I wrote this for the young lady who is confused. I wrote this for the woman who said I missed my chance on love. I wrote this for the young lady who feels she has no reason to love herself. I wrote this for the young lady who has just lost her first love and feels she will never find another. I wrote this book for mothers who will one day provide a positive source of information to their daughters instead of allowing them to rely on the immature advice of their friends when their questions arise about love, sex, relationships. Lastly and definitely not least, I wrote this book because I love all my sisters and if any line of information in this book can help someone in a positive way, then I pray it is worth it.

IS IT BETTER TO CONFORM

THAN TO BE ALONE?

Why do women conform? Why do women become so hell bent on finding a mate and end up sacrificing so much of themselves? There is nothing wrong with being alone? Women that feel they must have a man or a friend in their lives are the prime examples of women who lack confidence and who are not comfortable with being who they are. Most of the time, we desire to be with other people so that we don’t have to be alone. When you are alone, you tend to think you’re relaxing, but in actuality your mind begins to wander. Sometimes about things that we are not proud of or maybe even our short comings; most of us don’t like to have these moments. If you can’t stand to be alone and face yourself, then how do you expect others to want to be around you?

Women don’t fool yourselves; the unhappiness that you think that you are concealing will soon begin to rear its ugly head, especially with men. Men can see things in a woman that we think we are hiding. They know how to hunt for certain traits in a woman and how to reveal certain red flags. Women who don’t know who they are don’t have an identity. They become needy in relationships. They love the company of others because they hope they can identify with the individual in hopes of finding their own identity. The truth of the matter is they will never be happy. We have to learn to love ourselves including our flaws by embracing those characteristics which make you the unique individual you are; the characteristics that set you apart from everyone else.

No one on this earth is perfect. You just have people that are better at concealing their imperfections than others. You can cover your flaws and still embrace them. So let’s take a quick review. We know that getting to know yourself is the key to knowing your worth as a woman. We know that conforming and changing who you are for a temporary gain of a mate or friend is not the way to go. We know now how to find the answer to the question who am I? Who I Am=My Worth. Women we must hold true to who we are. We must not ever allow our worth to be compromised or taken from us. If we allow this to happen, then we lose who we are and we put ourselves in a very vulnerable position allowing us to be open to anything thrown at us by anyone. Remember no one knows who you are better than you.

DID YOU KNOW YOUR METHODS

FOR HANDLING YOUR EMOTIONS COULD AFFECT YOUR WORTH?

Emotions are a huge problem for most women. They can be a curse and a blessing all at once. Women have to learn how to control their emotions, not numb them. One of the most common ways women allow their emotions to get out of control is when exemplify the gift of nurturing. For example, when women become involved in relationships we want to nurture and embrace the person and all of their issues. We want to try to rescue the person and be that needed shoulder. We are so involved in being a rock for that person that we neglect our own emotional needs. The worst situation that a woman can get caught up in is getting tangled in the web of a needy person, be it a friend or potential mate. In these situations, a woman gives so much to build this person up not realizing that she is slowly breaking herself