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    The Complex Rules for Raising Adult Children: From Protector to Guide

    by Judy Marano Sep 18, 2020 5 minutes
    The Complex Rules for Raising Adult Children: From Protector to Guide by Judy Marano. Photograph of a parent holding a child's hand by Liane Metzler
    Photograph by Liane Metzler

    After successfully raising her children into adulthood, one mother now faces a new challenge — how to be a parent to adult children

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    Ask me how to take care of children. I got you. Ask me how to raise good people with manners. A mix of structure and praise does the trick. But ask me how to be the mother of two grown young men. I am clueless.

    There are about a million books that tell you how to raise your child, but the shelves are almost empty when looking for the Guide to a Relationship with Your Adult Children. Because let’s face it, you have already instilled in them all the lessons you can. Before they aged out, they would listen (even if they pretended not too) when you talked about life and obstacles to

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