Summary of Terrence Real's I Don't Want to Talk About It

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#1 The issue of men’s depression is a difficult one to deal with, as it is seen as unmanly. It is a condition that is both shame-filled and shameful, and yet it is extremely impactful.

#2 Depression is a disorder of feeling, and yet men are often reluctant to acknowledge it. Men and women often express depression differently, and their pathways toward it are distinct.

#3 The traditional socialization of boys and girls hurts them both, each in particular, complementary ways. Girls, and later women, tend to internalize pain. Boys, and later men, tend to externalize pain. Depression in men, unless it is dealt with, tends to be passed along.

#4 I had been treating David and Elaine for close to six months. Elaine first wanted me to see the two of them, not for Chad’s sake but for the sake of their marriage. After twenty years, she felt miserable alone. David was good-natured and helpful, but she felt like he wasn’t there.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 23, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669394075

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Insights on Terrence Real's I Dont Want to Talk About It

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The issue of men’s depression is a difficult one to deal with, as it is seen as unmanly. It is a condition that is both shame-filled and shameful, and yet it is extremely impactful.

#2

Depression is a disorder of feeling, and yet men are often reluctant to acknowledge it. Men and women often express depression differently, and their pathways toward it are distinct.

#3

The traditional socialization of boys and girls hurts them both, each in particular, complementary ways. Girls, and later women, tend to internalize pain. Boys, and later men, tend to externalize pain. Depression in men, unless it is dealt with, tends to be passed along.

#4

I had been treating David and Elaine for close to six months. Elaine first wanted me to see the two of them, not for Chad’s sake but for the sake of their marriage. After twenty years, she felt miserable alone. David was good-natured and helpful, but she felt like he wasn’t there.

#5

In family therapy, the major players in such events are often sitting together in the therapist’s office. Bringing the scene palpably into the room adds an emotional charge that the therapist can use to advantage.

#6

When dealing with a violent person, try to capture the feeling of violence with your words. Do not treat them this way, and do not hold back your feelings. You’ll just give yourself a headache.

#7

To treat a man like David, you must first get at him and crack him open. The patient needs help bringing his depression up to the surface. He may be unhappy at work, but he would not have bored anyone with the details.

#8

Depression is commonly thought of as a state of profound impairment, utter despair, and thorough debilitation. But for men like David, who are driven and productive, depression can be barely noticeable midlife malaise.

#9

Overt depression is the most common type, and it is easy to diagnose. It is characterized by symptoms of sadness, down feelings, and a decreased interest in pleasurable activities. It is not caused by an imbalance of black bile, but it is still referred to as melancholy.

#10

The stigma attached to depression is especially acute for men, who are typically