Summary of Nancy Dreyfus, Psy. D.'s Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, revised edition

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#1 The flash cards in this group are straightforward acknowledgments that your interaction is not going well, and that the Sender is offering an opportunity for the two of you to pivot in a better direction. They all contain the same basic message: something is not good, and one of you is asking for something different.

#2 The really listen to each other card is a powerful intervention that tells the Receiver that you understand they are not enjoying the situation, and that you are willing to work to turn the situation around.

#3 When you want to feel safer with someone, you don’t have to get them to see how badly they are behaving. Just tell them you want to feel safer with them.

#4 The reason we don’t have a flash card that says, Please don’t take this personally, is because most people don’t know how to not take it personally. If Marjorie wants fifteen more minutes on the phone with her girlfriend, and Paul is ready to watch the DVD, it can be a recipe for conflict.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 11, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822511828

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Insights on Nancy Dreyfus and Psy. D.'s Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, revised edition

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The flash cards in this group are straightforward acknowledgments that your interaction is not going well, and that the Sender is offering an opportunity for the two of you to pivot in a better direction. They all contain the same basic message: something is not good, and one of you is asking for something different.

#2

The really listen to each other card is a powerful intervention that tells the Receiver that you understand they are not enjoying the situation, and that you are willing to work to turn the situation around.

#3

When you want to feel safer with someone, you don’t have to get them to see how badly they are behaving. Just tell them you want to feel safer with them.

#4

The reason we don’t have a flash card that says, Please don’t take this personally, is because most people don’t know how to not take it personally. If Marjorie wants fifteen more minutes on the phone with her girlfriend, and Paul is ready to watch the DVD, it can be a recipe for conflict.

#5

When it comes to chronic relationship conflict, underneath everything you have been trying to explain, argue for or avoid with your partner is this one wish: please, just take in what’s going on with me without judgment.

#6

The truth about relationships is that though we may be oblivious to our partner’s upset over something we have done, we cannot stand it when our partner is upset