Summary of Dr. Sue Johnson's Love Sense

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Book Preview:

#1 My memories are full of the sounds and sights of love: the ache in my elderly grandmother’s voice when she spoke of her husband, gone nearly fifty years, a railway signalman who had courted her for seven years.

#2 Love is a mystery that has eluded everyone throughout history. It is a mix of four components: intimacy, passion, commitment, and nature’s reproductive strategy. But for us who are trying to find or keep love, these definitions are useless.

#3 The most important building block of any society, the family unit, is now based on feelings of affection and emotional connection. This has been the case since the 1990s, when women began entering the workforce and marrying for love.

#4 The nature of love is important to understand, as it is the most intimate relationship we have as adults. It is also the principal relationship for many, and the only one.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 5, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822503151

IRB Media

With IRB books, you can get the key takeaways and analysis of a book in 15 minutes. We read every chapter, identify the key takeaways and analyze them for your convenience.

Book preview

Insights on Dr. Sue Johnson's Love Sense

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

My memories are full of the sounds and sights of love: the ache in my elderly grandmother’s voice when she spoke of her husband, gone nearly fifty years, a railway signalman who had courted her for seven years.

#2

Love is a mystery that has eluded everyone throughout history. It is a mix of four components: intimacy, passion, commitment, and nature’s reproductive strategy. But for us who are trying to find or keep love, these definitions are useless.

#3

The most important building block of any society, the family unit, is now based on feelings of affection and emotional connection. This has been the case since the 1990s, when women began entering the workforce and marrying for love.

#4

The nature of love is important to understand, as it is the most intimate relationship we have as adults. It is also the principal relationship for many, and the only one.

#5

The field of social sciences has revolutionized its approach to studying love. Emotions, which were once considered to be irrational and suspect, are now being studied and understood.

#6

The new love sense is not only theoretical but also practical and optimistic. It illuminates why we love and reveals how we can make, repair, and keep love.

#7

The human brain and nervous system are wired with an automatic call-and-response system that keeps parents and children emotionally attached to each other. When a baby boy cries from hunger, his mother picks him up and feeds him.

#8

The need to depend on one person never disappears as we grow up. We simply transfer that need from our primary caregiver to our lover. Romantic love is not the least bit random or illogical. It is the continuation of an ordered and wise recipe for our survival.

#9

We have it backwards when it comes to sex and romantic love. It is not good sex that leads to satisfying, secure relationships, but rather secure love that leads to good and, in fact, the best sex.

#10

We are designed to need emotional connections to survive. We see this clear example in the cross-species combinations we mentioned earlier: in Thailand, a tiger adopts baby pigs; in China, a dog nurses lion cubs; in Colombia, a cat cares for a squirrel.

#11

Close connection is the strongest predictor