Summary of John Bradshaw's Homecoming

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

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#1 The loss of our innate human potential is the greatest tragedy of all. We can help prevent this from happening to our children by teaching them to be curious and creative, and by raising them in a culture that supports those traits.

#2 I began to understand that when a child’s development is arrested, feelings are repressed, and especially the feelings of anger and hurt, a person will grow up to be an adult with an angry, hurt child inside of him.

#3 Co-dependence is a dis-ease characterized by a loss of identity. It is fostered in unhealthy family systems. People who are co-dependent lose touch with their own feelings, needs, and desires, and instead become dependent on something outside of themselves to have an identity.

#4 The family environment is extremely important for children. When the family is filled with violence, the child must focus on the outside. Without a healthy inner life, one is exiled to trying to find fulfillment on the outside.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 21, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669350378

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The loss of our innate human potential is the greatest tragedy of all. We can help prevent this from happening to our children by teaching them to be curious and creative, and by raising them in a culture that supports those traits.

#2

I began to understand that when a child’s development is arrested, feelings are repressed, and especially the feelings of anger and hurt, a person will grow up to be an adult with an angry, hurt child inside of him.

#3

Co-dependence is a dis-ease characterized by a loss of identity. It is fostered in unhealthy family systems. People who are co-dependent lose touch with their own feelings, needs, and desires, and instead become dependent on something outside of themselves to have an identity.

#4

The family environment is extremely important for children. When the family is filled with violence, the child must focus on the outside. Without a healthy inner life, one is exiled to trying to find fulfillment on the outside.

#5

The wounded inner child is responsible for much of the violence in the world. It is responsible for offender behavior, which is rooted in childhood trauma and the suffering and unresolved grief of that abuse.

#6

The needs of narcissistically deprived adult children take various forms: They are disappointed in one relationship after another. They are always looking for the perfect lover who will fill all their needs. They become addicts.

#7

Control madness, the addiction to control, is when a person becomes so afraid of being out of control that he works as much as a hundred hours a week. He cannot delegate any authority because he doesn’t trust others to do their jobs.

#8

The primary motivating force in our lives is emotion. We are moved to defend ourselves and get our basic needs met by energy, or emotion. We are angry when we feel threatened, and we take a stand. We fear danger and take flight, and we become more perceptive.

#9

Unresolved emotion from the past is often turned against the self. We punish ourselves the way we were punished in childhood. Acting out on ourselves the abuse from the past is called acting in.

#10

The belief that certain words, gestures, or behaviors can change reality is called magical thinking. Children are often taught this type of thinking by their parents.

#11

The wounded inner child contaminates intimacy in relationships because he has no sense of his authentic self. He has no sense of his own boundaries, needs, or desires, and so he rejects his own child. Then, a false self must be built up.

#12

Boundaries are the walls around us that protect