Summary of Pete Walker's The Tao of Fully Feeling

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

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#1 The disease of emotional emaciation is epidemic, and it is killing millions of people. We are becoming more and more driven and compulsive, and we are losing the ability to experience peace.

#2 We cannot be whole human beings if we only experience the positive emotions. We need the darker emotions to access the infinite range of color, hue, and tone that makes life beautiful.

#3 When we befriend our emotions, we suffer less from self-destructive flights from feelings. We accept the reality that our emotional nature, like the weather, changes unpredictably with a variety of pleasant and unpleasant conditions.

#4 Forgiving your parents is a very personal process, and one that should not be rushed. Real forgiveness, as opposed to false forgiveness, requires the opening up of your pain channels so that you can begin to feel your feelings.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 25, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669372707

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Insights on Pete Walker's The Tao of Fully Feeling

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 15

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The disease of emotional emaciation is epidemic, and it is killing millions of people. We are becoming more and more driven and compulsive, and we are losing the ability to experience peace.

#2

We cannot be whole human beings if we only experience the positive emotions. We need the darker emotions to access the infinite range of color, hue, and tone that makes life beautiful.

#3

When we befriend our emotions, we suffer less from self-destructive flights from feelings. We accept the reality that our emotional nature, like the weather, changes unpredictably with a variety of pleasant and unpleasant conditions.

#4

Forgiving your parents is a very personal process, and one that should not be rushed. Real forgiveness, as opposed to false forgiveness, requires the opening up of your pain channels so that you can begin to feel your feelings.

#5

Simply choosing forgiveness is often an unconscious attempt to keep our sadness and anger about childhood buried in the past. However, this decision also inters our feelings of real forgiveness as well as our capacity to be fully feeling.

#6

Forgiving others is about letting go of blame, which is a vital part of the instinct to protect oneself.

#7

We all suffer from the effects of poor parenting, and we often blame ourselves for the deficits we experience. But until we understand the degree to which our current pain stems from unresolved childhood losses, we will continue to scapegoat the wrong person for our troubles.

#8

Forgiveness depends on the adult child remembering the specifics of her parents’ abuse and neglect. It is not humanly possible to forgive injuries that are still causing us pain. Unremembered and ungrieved traumas block the tender feelings that are the matrix for feeling forgiveness.

#9

As we become more emotionally whole, our health and vitality improve. We no longer waste energy holding the past at bay, and we are able to relax into our innate ability to be intimidated by beauty.

#10

Fully feeling people are also rewarded with increasing richness in their relationships. Love is a palpable warmth and excitement when it is grounded in the heart and body by feeling. If we remain trapped in our families’ legacy of disdaining all but the most exalted emotions, we may never feel authentically forgiving toward ourselves or anyone else.

Insights from Chapter 2

#1

For many survivors, the concept of forgiveness is presented to them as a miraculous tool that will help them move on from their past. However, this