Summary of Diane Poole Heller's The Power of Attachment

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 Secure attachment is the process of being in attunement with your loved ones. It doesn’t mean that you will always get what you want, or that you will never be upset by life, or that your parents are perfect.

#2 The five elements of secure attachment are protection, support, presence, autonomy, and interdependence. As children, we develop autonomy when we receive protection and support from our parents, but not to the degree that they supervise and monitor every little detail of our lives.

#3 The trust we have in others is a result of our experiences with them. We typically trust people who have been consistent in their behavior, and we distrust people who have been inconsistent in their behavior.

#4 Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. When we have a basic trust in the world, it means that we’re intrinsically more optimistic and unflappable. We recover from setbacks faster, and we’re able to pull our resources together when trouble eventually hits.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 21, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669350507

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Insights on Diane Poole Heller's The Power Of Attachment

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Secure attachment is the process of being in attunement with your loved ones. It doesn’t mean that you will always get what you want, or that you will never be upset by life, or that your parents are perfect.

#2

The five elements of secure attachment are protection, support, presence, autonomy, and interdependence. As children, we develop autonomy when we receive protection and support from our parents, but not to the degree that they supervise and monitor every little detail of our lives.

#3

The trust we have in others is a result of our experiences with them. We typically trust people who have been consistent in their behavior, and we distrust people who have been inconsistent in their behavior.

#4

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. When we have a basic trust in the world, it means that we’re intrinsically more optimistic and unflappable. We recover from setbacks faster, and we’re able to pull our resources together when trouble eventually hits.

#5

When you’re grounded, mentally scan the important relationships in your life and those that stand out as representatives of secure attachment. Gather these people around you and visualize yourself being protected and cared for by them.

#6

It’s not easy to be secure, and we all have moments where we aren’t as present as we’d like to be. The key is to notice when things are less than ideal, and