Summary of Alexandra H. Solomon's Loving Bravely

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#1 You exist in the present moment, with your past behind you and your future ahead of you. However, your past is still with you, and it shapes the lens through which you experience the present moment. Your past shapes how you love.

#2 We must explore our past in order to become therapists. The past is full of pain and dysfunctional relationships, but this does not mean that we are damaged beyond repair. Healing is always possible.

#3 Being honest about your past makes it much more likely that you will be able to enjoy a happy and healthy intimate relationship today and in the future. Relational self-awareness is not only essential for your intimate relationship, but it is also essential if you plan to become a parent.

#4 The Name-Connect-Choose process is our tool of change, which helps us expand our relational self-awareness about how the past affects our intimate relationships today.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 3, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822528437

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

You exist in the present moment, with your past behind you and your future ahead of you. However, your past is still with you, and it shapes the lens through which you experience the present moment. Your past shapes how you love.

#2

We must explore our past in order to become therapists. The past is full of pain and dysfunctional relationships, but this does not mean that we are damaged beyond repair. Healing is always possible.

#3

Being honest about your past makes it much more likely that you will be able to enjoy a happy and healthy intimate relationship today and in the future. Relational self-awareness is not only essential for your intimate relationship, but it is also essential if you plan to become a parent.

#4

The Name-Connect-Choose process is our tool of change, which helps us expand our relational self-awareness about how the past affects our intimate relationships today.

#5

When your expanded awareness allows you to choose a path of more intimate connection with your partner, you are able to commit to honoring your relationship with yourself as the precursor for your relationship with everyone else.

#6

When you surrender the belief that the key to a successful intimate relationship is finding Mr. or Ms. Right, and instead trust that the key to a successful intimate relationship is becoming and being Mr. Right, you will find that your relationships will be happier and more fulfilling.

#7

Write down the descriptions of your parents, your last two or three boyfriends, and yourself, and then place them side by side. What do you notice. What are the similarities. What are the differences.

#8

When you were growing up, what aspects of your family life felt precious, beneficial, and valuable to you. Then, what aspects felt destructive, hurtful, and/or unhelpful. These lists will reveal the beliefs, values, patterns, and traditions that you want to carry on in your own life, as well as the ones that you are probably eager to leave behind.

#9

Mark and Tonya’s marriage was completely destroyed, but they were able to see possibilities for rebuilding. They were both committed to the life they